里昂夜讀英語美文[345]:分手后如何克服分離和孤獨(dú)
After Breaking Up -- How To Overcome Separation And Loneliness
分手后--如何克服分離和孤獨(dú)
1.Accept that it is over, and that you have to move on to another phase in life.
要學(xué)會(huì)接受這段關(guān)系已經(jīng)結(jié)束了，你必須要走向人生的另一個(gè)階段。
After all, one of the biggest failures of people whose partners have walked away from them,
畢竟，那些與伴侶遠(yuǎn)去的人，最大的失敗
is their inability to accept the separation or accept that the person wants to move on.
是他們無法接受分手，無法接受伴侶要離開的事實(shí)。
2.Accept that loneliness is normal.
要學(xué)會(huì)接受寂寞是正常的。
One of the worst things that you can do after a separation is crying yourself out because you are going to be lonely.
你可以在分開之后大哭一場(chǎng)，因?yàn)槟銜?huì)覺得很孤單。
It will be ok to cry,
哭是可以的，
but cry only because you can't believe you had wasted so much of your time with a jerk that was not really worth your time anyway.
但哭只是因?yàn)槟銦o法相信你浪費(fèi)了這么多時(shí)間用來哭泣，這又是否真的值得你花時(shí)間呢。
3.Do not try to force yourself to forget the person.
不要試圖強(qiáng)迫自己忘記別人。
It will be ok to remember them, but focus on the bad
你記住他們是可以的，但是專注于壞的方面
the drama, the pain, the stress, the misery, and the humiliating aspects of that relationship you had with them.
戲劇性、痛苦、壓力、不幸，和曾經(jīng)的羞辱。
And if you did, I would like you to tell me how you did it.
如果你做到了，我希望你能告訴我你是怎么做的。
