英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第346期 Confident People Never Do Those Things(上)
When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay fit and well-groomed, and they eat healthy foods, because they know their bodies deserve to be cared for properly. Confident people improve the things they can, strive to put their best foot forward, and then accept themselves as they are.
第一，他們不過(guò)度關(guān)注自己的外貌。自信的人對(duì)自己的外貌抱有積極的態(tài)度。他們保持健康，打扮得體，他們吃健康的食物，因?yàn)樗麄冎酪獝?ài)惜自己的身體。自信的人會(huì)積極改善周?chē)氖挛?，做事情總是全力以赴，并且他們能接納自己本來(lái)的樣子。
Number 2 - They Don't Try To Change Their Personality
Whether someone's an introvert or an extrovert, they can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance comes from feeling good about who they are and what they can achieve by being completely authentic. They don't try to be someone they're not, because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.
第二，他們不會(huì)強(qiáng)求改變自己的性格。無(wú)論人們是內(nèi)向還是外向，他們都可以很自信。自信的人知道，自信來(lái)源于保持本真，對(duì)自己感到愉悅，對(duì)自己的成就感到滿(mǎn)意。他們不強(qiáng)迫自己變成別人的樣子，因?yàn)樗麄兠靼?，悅納自己是自信的重要組成部分。
Number 3 - They Don't Chase Likes And Follows On Social Media
For confident people, social media is about sharing what's happening - and not a place for being worshiped. They don't get disappointed when they post something and get only two thumbs up on it. You may also find their profiles to be more interesting, and less self-centered than insecure people. They would rather post a quote they love, or a picture of a tree than a flaming hot selfie!
第三，他們不在社交媒體上隨波逐流。對(duì)于自信的人而言，社交媒體只是一個(gè)分享日常生活的工具，它不是為了讓人們感到被膜拜而存在的。如果他們發(fā)的動(dòng)態(tài)只得了一兩個(gè)贊，他們也不會(huì)感到失望。你也許會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，比起那些缺乏安全感的人，他們的頭像更有趣，沒(méi)有那些人的那么自戀。他們更愿意用一句自己喜歡的話、或者一棵樹(shù)來(lái)做頭像，而不是用一張火辣的自拍。
Number 4 - They Don't Ignore Their Own Judgment
Self-confident people don't assume other people have all the answers or know best. They value their own good judgment and listen to their own intuition. They recognize that they have the ability, on their own, to come up with the answers for most situations. They may seek input and guidance, but they are comfortable making a final decision when the time comes.
第四，他們不會(huì)忽略自己的判斷。自信的人并不認(rèn)為其他人無(wú)所不知，他們重視自己的判斷，并且相信自己的直覺(jué)。他們很清楚，對(duì)于大多數(shù)事情，自己能夠獨(dú)立地想出解決辦法。他們可能會(huì)尋求幫助，但是遇到要做決定的時(shí)候，他們總是能當(dāng)機(jī)立斷。
Number 5 - They Don't Put Others Down To Feel Good
Confident people don't need to undermine others or make negative comments about them, their success, or wealth, in order to build themselves up. They are genuinely happy for the success of others, and allow themselves to feel inspired by those successes. Furthermore, they don't assume successful people have something special that others don't have. They look to other happy, successful people for ideas and motivation - to create the same success in their lives.
第五，他們不通過(guò)貶低他人來(lái)獲得快樂(lè)。自信的人不需要打壓別人，不需要詆毀別人的成就或者財(cái)富來(lái)抬高自己。他們會(huì)從別人的成功中尋求靈感。此外，他們不認(rèn)為那些成功的人有什么獨(dú)特之處。他們?cè)谀切┛鞓?lè)的、成功的人身上獲得靈感和動(dòng)力，這樣一來(lái)，他們也能獲得同樣的成就。
Number 6 - They Don't Dominate Conversations
A confident person understands that a conversation is an exchange of thoughts, and not a solo act. They take the time to learn what others are passionate about - even if they aren't particularly interested in the topic. They know that by actively listening and paying attention to others, they are much more likely to learn and grow.
第六，和他人交流時(shí)，他們不會(huì)控制對(duì)話。自信的人知道，對(duì)話是思想的交流，而不是演獨(dú)角戲。就算他們不感興趣，他們也會(huì)耐心地了解他人喜歡什么。他們知道，如果能夠積極地、專(zhuān)注地傾聽(tīng)別人，自己就更有可能得到收獲和成長(zhǎng)。
Number 7 - They Don't Avoid Conflict
Confident people know that conflict is part of life, and they don't see it as something to be completely avoided - they see it as something to manage effectively. They don't go along to get along – even when it means having uncomfortable conversations or making unpleasant decisions.
第七，他們直面沖突。自信的人知道，沖突是生活的一部分，他們并不認(rèn)為我們應(yīng)該絕對(duì)避免沖突，而是要合理地應(yīng)對(duì)沖突。就算這意味著他們要面對(duì)一些令人不快的談話或者一些糟糕的決定，他們也不會(huì)為了得過(guò)且過(guò)而妥協(xié)。
Number 8 - They Don't Cling To People
People with confidence can stand on their own two feet. It's not to say that they don't enjoy the company of others. But they are integral enough to enjoy their own company, and to feel confident - even when they are alone, or in a new social situation.
第八，他們不會(huì)刻意追求陪伴。自信的人是能夠獨(dú)立的。這不是說(shuō)他們不喜歡和別人待在一起，而是說(shuō)，就算他們自己一個(gè)人待著或者身處一個(gè)新環(huán)境，他們也能夠享受獨(dú)處的時(shí)光，能夠很自信。
Number 9 - They Don't Wait For Permission To Act
Confident people don't need somebody to tell them what to do, or when to do it. They don't waste time asking themselves questions like "Can I?" or "Should I?" If they ask themselves anything, it's "Why wouldn't I?" Whether it's running a meeting when the chairperson doesn't show up, or going the extra mile to solve a customer's problem, it doesn't even occur to them to wait for someone else to take care of it. They see what needs to be done, and they do it.
第九，他們做事情不需要得到別人的允許。自信的人不需要?jiǎng)e人跟自己說(shuō)該做什么，或者該什么時(shí)候做。我做得到嗎？我應(yīng)該這樣做嗎？他們不會(huì)浪費(fèi)時(shí)間去糾結(jié)這樣的問(wèn)題。何樂(lè)而不為呢？他們只會(huì)問(wèn)自己這樣的問(wèn)題。領(lǐng)導(dǎo)不在時(shí)把會(huì)議辦好，多費(fèi)些心思去處理客戶(hù)的問(wèn)題，諸如此類(lèi)的事情，他們從來(lái)不會(huì)等著別人來(lái)做。他們能看見(jiàn)需要解決的事情，然后馬上著手。
Number 10 - They Don't Seek Happiness From The Outside
Happiness is a critical element of confidence, because in order to be confident in what you do, you have to be happy with who you are. People who brim with confidence derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from their own accomplishments - as opposed to what other people think. They understand that no matter what anyone says - you're never as good or bad as people say you are.
第十，他們不在外界追求快樂(lè)。快樂(lè)是自信的重要組成部分，這是因?yàn)?，如果你?duì)自己做的事情感到自信，那么你首先要對(duì)自己感到滿(mǎn)意。那些非常自信的人，不是從別人的看法中獲得快樂(lè)，而是從自己的成就中獲得愉悅和滿(mǎn)足。他們很清楚，無(wú)論別人的評(píng)價(jià)如何，你沒(méi)有別人所說(shuō)的那么厲害，也不像別人說(shuō)的那么糟糕。
