1. Your Daily Activities
你的日常活動
All of your conversations don’t have to be earth shattering. Spend time talking about your day-to-day activities. Discuss what time you woke up, what you ate for lunch, or what you discussed with a co-worker and help your partner understand what happens when you’re apart.
不需要所有的談話都轟動世界,花點時間談一談你的日?;顒影伞U勔幌履阈褋淼臅r間,你吃午飯的時間,或者討論一下你和你同事討論了什么,你還可以讓你的另一半知道你獨處的時候發(fā)生了什么。
2. Money
財富
Talk about your budget. Discuss your saving and spending habits. If you combine your finances, set some financial goals and discuss strategies to help you reach those goals.
談一下你的預(yù)算。講一下你省錢和花錢的習(xí)慣。結(jié)合你的財政狀況,可以設(shè)定一些財政目標以及實現(xiàn)這些目標的策略。
3. Places You Want to Explore
你想去的地方
Start a conversation about the places you’d like to visit. Whether you want to travel to your grandmother’s house or you want to go on a cruise around the world, a discussion about travel can spark a lot of new conversation.
開始一個談?wù)撃阆肴サ牡胤降脑掝}。不管你是想去你祖母的老屋還是想去周游世界,一個關(guān)于旅游的話題總能迸發(fā)出更多話題的火花。
4. Emotional Growth
情緒管理
Share some information about your emotional growth. If you notice you’ve become wiser, less reactive, or more compassionate, share that with your partner. Point out the emotional growth you see in your partner as well.
分享一些關(guān)于你情緒管理的信息。如果你意識到自己變得更加睿智,少了點浮躁,多了點同情心,那么和你的另一半分享吧,同時也要指出你眼中的另一半的情緒管理。
5. Individual Goals
個人目標
It’s healthy to have individual goals. Whether you want to lose weight, learn how to prepare Chinese food, or learn how to line dance, set some goals for yourself and discuss those goals with your partner.
擁有個人目標是一件很值得提倡的事情。不管你是想要減肥,學(xué)習(xí)如何做中國菜或者學(xué)習(xí)如何排舞,給自己定一些目標,并且和另一半討論你的這些目標。
6. Spiritual Beliefs
精神信仰
Start conversations about your spiritual beliefs. Be willing to listen to your partner’s beliefs and be open to talking about the similarities and differences in your beliefs.
開始關(guān)于信仰的話題。要愿意去聽另一半的信仰,并且可以討論和你的信仰的相似點和不同點。
7. What You’re Watching on TV
你看的電視節(jié)目
Although watching TV isn’t an active way to grow together as a couple, discussing what you’re watching can help you learn something new about one another.
盡管看電視并不是兩個人共同成長的好方法,但是通過你看的電視節(jié)目可以了解對方更多。
8. Politics
政治
You don’t have to agree on politics in order to have a discussion about it. You can learn a lot about your partner if you have a conversation about politics. Any healthy relationship should allow each partner to feel respected enough to share an opinion, even if it opposes the other partner’s opinion.
你不必為了討論政治而去相信某種政治觀點。如果你們討論政治,是一個很好的了解另一半的窗口。任何一種健康的人際關(guān)系應(yīng)該允許任何一個人去表達任何一種觀點,盡管那個觀點和其他人的相反。
9. Goals to Address as a Couple
組建家庭的目標
Discuss the goals you want to reach together as a couple. All healthy relationships should include shared goals for the future. Whether your goal is to volunteer at a homeless shelter together or save enough money for a new car, working together to reach your goal can help you stay close as a couple.
討論一下組建一個家庭需要達到的目標。所有健康的關(guān)系里面都應(yīng)該包含對未來的目標。不管你的目標是在一個無家可歸者的庇護所里面當(dāng)一個志愿者,還是攢足夠的錢去買車,一起努力去實現(xiàn)目標可以使你們更加親密。
10. Your Past
你的過去
Your partner doesn’t need to know every skeleton in your closet. However, sharing information about your past can be very helpful. Talk about your childhood, past experiences, or obstacles you’ve overcome. You can also share how much you’ve learned and changed over the years.
你的另一半不需要知道你過去所有的丑事。但是,分享一些你過去的事情非常有必要??梢哉f一下你的童年,小時候的經(jīng)歷,或者你克服的阻礙困難。你也可以分享一下你在過去幾年里學(xué)到和改變的東西。
11. Your Values
你的價值觀
It’s important to share your values with one another. Talk about your priorities in life. It’s important for your partner to know how you feel about work, family, education, friends, and leisure time. Let your partner know what types of things you value the most and what changes you may want to make to ensure that you’re living according to your values.
和別人分享你的價值觀非常重要。談?wù)撘幌履闵钪兄匾氖虑?。讓你的另一半知道你對工作,家庭,教育,朋友以及閑暇時間的看法很重要。要讓你的另一半知道,什么事情對你而言最重要,你想要做什么改變以確保遵循自己的價值觀而活。
12. Your Dreams
你的夢想
Daydreaming together can be a great activity in any healthy relationship. Discuss dreams you had as a child, dreams you’ve let go, and dreams you still hold onto.
在一段健康的關(guān)系中,一起做白日夢是很好的“活動”。討論一下兒童時期的夢想,夢里你去過的地方,還有你現(xiàn)在仍然懷有的夢想。
13. Your Feelings
你的感覺
Of course, talking about your feelings is an important part of communication. Be willing to share your joys and sorrows with your partner. Also, be willing to talk about what makes you feel angry, when you’re disappointment, and when you feel embarrassed or hurt.
當(dāng)然,談你的感受是交談中很重要的一個部分。要和你的另一半分享你的喜悅和傷心。當(dāng)然,還有你生氣的時候,你失望的時候,你不好意思的時候,或者受傷的時候。
14. Family
家庭
Whether you’ve got a close relationship with your family or not, talking about family can be important. It can give your partner an inside look at what type of childhood you had as well as what type of relationship you have with your family members. Discuss how you want your family to be different from your family of origin, as well as which aspects you want to replicate.
不管你和你的家人關(guān)系是否親密,談?wù)撃愕募彝シ浅V匾?。它可以向你的另一半展示你的童年,以及你和你的家庭成員之間的關(guān)系。談?wù)勀阆胱屇愕募彝ズ驮瓉碛惺裁床煌约澳阆氡A舻姆矫妗?/p>
15. Your Relationship
你的人際關(guān)系
Discuss the aspects of your relationship that are working well and make sure to also discuss problematic areas. Talking openly about your relationship can ensure your relationship stays fresh and exciting.
談?wù)勀闳穗H關(guān)系中好的方面,對有疑問的地方進行討論。暢談你的人際關(guān)系可以讓你們的關(guān)系保持新鮮,充滿激情。