幸福的戀人是這樣的

1. They don’t believe the other person will “complete” them

他們不相信對(duì)方會(huì)“完整”

Happy people complete themselves before they look for someone else to enhance their lives. You have to enjoy your own company first and nobody else can replace that part of you. Many people live their lives as if they were a character in a romantic comedy, and believe that they must eat, sleep, and breath with their partner. Mentally strong people remind themselves they are complete just the way they are.

幸福的人完善自己之前找別人來(lái)提高他們的生活。你必須先享受你的自己的公司,沒(méi)有人可以替代你的一部分。許多人生活就像在浪漫喜劇角色,并相信他們必須與伴侶一起吃,睡,呼吸。精神強(qiáng)大的人提醒自己他們完整是因?yàn)樗麄冇凶约旱姆绞健?/p>

2. They don’t bring up the past to justify the present

他們不把過(guò)去用來(lái)證明現(xiàn)在

Happy people don’t bring up the past to win an argument or use it as relationship collateral. They try to work toward improving the relationship in that moment, instead of bringing up past events to justify their actions. Mentally strong people seek to live in the moment by understanding that the past has its place but will never solve today’s problems.

幸福的人不用過(guò)去來(lái)贏得爭(zhēng)吵或使用它作為戀愛(ài)的抵押品。他們?cè)噲D努力改善關(guān)系的那一刻,而不是把過(guò)去的事件帶到現(xiàn)在來(lái)為自己的行為辯護(hù)。精神強(qiáng)大的人尋求活在當(dāng)下,他們知道過(guò)去的事不會(huì)解決今天的問(wèn)題。

3. They don’t look outside the relationship to improve the relationship

他們看起來(lái)不改善戀愛(ài)的關(guān)系

Happy people devote their full attention to themselves and their partner, when it comes to fixing problems in the relationship. They don’t seek another person to fulfill their needs. They don’t become distant and justify their behavior by looking outside of the relationship to feel better about themselves. They don’t engage in destructive behavior to avoid the inevitable.

幸福的人把精力都投入給了他們自己和他們的伴侶,當(dāng)涉及到解決戀愛(ài)中的問(wèn)題時(shí)。他們不尋求另一個(gè)人來(lái)滿足他們的需求。他們不會(huì)變得遙遠(yuǎn),證明他們的行為通過(guò)外部的關(guān)系有更好的自我感覺(jué)。他們不參與具有破壞性的行為以避免不可避免的問(wèn)題。

4. They don’t put the other person down to feel better about themselves

他們不讓對(duì)方失望來(lái)尋求更好的自我感覺(jué)

Happy people understand that you don’t treat other people this way. It’s a lot easier to blame someone else for the way you act or feel, instead of looking at why you react the way you do. Mentally strong people know that the only way to have a successful relationship is to lift the other person up, not put them down in order to temporarily feel better about themselves.

幸福的人明白你不應(yīng)該這樣對(duì)待別人。這很容易責(zé)怪別人的行為或感覺(jué),而不是看你反應(yīng)的方式是為什么。精神強(qiáng)大的人都知道有一個(gè)成功的戀愛(ài)的唯一途徑是讓對(duì)方開心, 不讓對(duì)方失望來(lái)尋求更好的自我感覺(jué)。

5. They don’t stop communicating

他們不停止溝通

Happy people communicate with others in the good times and in the bad. They don’t avoid conversations that need to be had. They seek to better understand their partner, instead of avoiding topics that are uncomfortable or awkward. The mentally strong don’t avoid things because they are uncomfortable, but rather look at these situations as welcome opportunities to improve the relationship.

幸福的人在任何時(shí)候都會(huì)與別人交流。他們不避免需要的談話。他們想要更好地理解他們的伴侶,而不是避免不舒服或?qū)擂蔚脑掝}。精神強(qiáng)大的人不因?yàn)樗麄儾皇娣苊馐?,而是把這些情況當(dāng)做機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)改善關(guān)系。

6. They don’t stop loving themselves

他們不停止愛(ài)自己

Happy people love themselves first, so they can love other people, not the other way around. Mentally strong people spend time improving their lives first, before they try and help anyone else. They know that by radiating love, it will only help the relationship succeed. Mentally strong people put themselves first.

幸福的人先愛(ài)自己,這樣他們就可以愛(ài)別人,而不是相反。精神強(qiáng)大的人在他們?cè)囍鴰椭鷦e人之前首先花時(shí)間改善他們的生活。他們知道通過(guò)輻射愛(ài),它只會(huì)使戀愛(ài)成功。精神強(qiáng)大的人把自己放在第一位。

It’s a lot easier to find fault in someone else, especially when we become vulnerable and trust someone we love. I encourage you to be mentally strong first, then ro seek someone who complements who you already are. Only through self discovery can we better understand the types of people who will enhance our lives.

這很容易找到在別人的錯(cuò),尤其是當(dāng)我們變得脆弱和相信我們愛(ài)的人時(shí)。我鼓勵(lì)您精神強(qiáng)大,然后尋求能完善你自己的人。只有通過(guò)自我發(fā)現(xiàn)我們才能更好地理解哪種類型的人會(huì)改善我們的生活。

To successfully improve any relationship, you no longer seek to change the other person, but you will instead seek to continually enhance a long and prosperous life together.

你不再試圖通過(guò)改變對(duì)方來(lái)成功改善任何關(guān)系 ,但你將轉(zhuǎn)而尋求一起讓生活不斷提高和繁榮。