去吧，好好哭一場。精神病醫(yī)生說，這對你有好處

去吧，好好哭一場。精神病醫(yī)生說，這對你有好處

It's all right to cry. Really.

哭也沒關(guān)系。真的。

Although it's often seen as a sign of weakness, crying can be just what the doctor ordered for sorting through muddied emotions and wading out anew.

雖然哭泣通常被視為軟弱的表現(xiàn)，但醫(yī)生可能會(huì)要求哭泣，以便理清混亂的情緒，重新振作起來。

“Our disapproval of emotional expression generally and crying specifically stems from childhood,” said Stephen Sideroff, an assistant professor in the department of psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences at the University of California, Los Angeles.

加州大學(xué)洛杉磯分校精神病學(xué)和生物行為科學(xué)系助理教授斯蒂芬·西德洛夫說：“我們一般不贊同情緒表達(dá)，尤其是不喜歡哭泣，都源于童年時(shí)代。”

As kids, we're often taught to restrain our emotions. Maybe you remember being teased in elementary school for crying when you were hurt. Or your parents chastised you by saying, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about."

當(dāng)我們還是孩子的時(shí)候，我們經(jīng)常被教導(dǎo)要克制自己的情緒。也許你還記得在小學(xué)時(shí)因?yàn)槭軅奁蝗顺靶?。或者你的父母懲罰你說:“別哭了，要不我就給你點(diǎn)哭的理由。”

Many of us learned there were feelings, such as anger or resentment, that we shouldn't have or express. As children grow into adulthood, we gradually learn to regulate — and sometimes repress and stifle awareness of — our feelings.

我們很多人都知道，有些情感，比如憤怒或怨恨，是我們不應(yīng)該擁有或表達(dá)的。隨著孩子長大成人，我們逐漸學(xué)會(huì)調(diào)節(jié)——有時(shí)壓抑和抑制——我們的情感意識(shí)。

So what, you might say? Who cares? But we don't hold emotions in only our heads, Sideroff said. We store them in our bodies, too.

你可能會(huì)說，那又怎樣?誰在乎呢? 西德洛夫說，但是我們不只是在大腦中儲(chǔ)存情感。我們也把它們儲(chǔ)存在體內(nèi)。

Holding back your feelings can hurt

壓抑自己的感情可能會(huì)受傷

You have to constrict in different ways to hold them in. That interferes with natural, instinctive processes and creates imbalances since the body's need is still there.

你必須用不同的方法來控制它們。這干擾了自然和本能的過程，造成了不平衡，因?yàn)樯眢w的需求仍然存在。

"If you're hungry, you eat," Sideroff said. "You find food to resolve and address that imbalance."

“如果你餓了，你就吃，” 西德洛夫說。“你會(huì)找到食物來解決和處理這種不平衡。”

So if you're sad or hurt or angry, you need to find something to resolve that imbalance.

所以，如果你感到悲傷、受傷或憤怒，你需要找到解決這種不平衡的方法。

If you don't, you might express those imbalanced feelings in inappropriate ways — like lashing out at your family or friends.

如果你不這樣做，你可能會(huì)用不恰當(dāng)?shù)姆绞絹肀磉_(dá)這些不平衡的感覺——比如抨擊你的家人或朋友。

Emotional restraint can hinder our ability to experience positive feelings, such as joy and love, as well.

情感上的克制也會(huì)阻礙我們體驗(yàn)積極情感的能力，比如快樂和愛。

Why we cry

為什么我們會(huì)哭

The three types of tears include emotional tears, which are triggered by strong feelings such as joy or sadness. Basal tears lubricate your eyes. Reflex tears release when dust or onion oxides irritate your eyes.

三種類型的眼淚包括情緒化的眼淚，這種眼淚是由強(qiáng)烈的情感，如喜悅或悲傷引起的?；诇I潤滑你的眼睛。當(dāng)灰塵或洋蔥氧化物刺激你的眼睛時(shí)，反射性眼淚就會(huì)釋放出來。

Humans are the only animals who cry into adulthood and have emotional tears, which may have "more complex, social functions to elicit support and comfort from others or to have communicative functions or social bonding functions," said Lauren Bylsma, an assistant professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Pittsburgh in Pennsylvania.

人類是唯一一種能哭到成年的動(dòng)物，會(huì)有情緒化的眼淚，這種眼淚可能“具有更復(fù)雜的社會(huì)功能，可以從他人那里獲得支持和安慰，或者具有交流功能或社會(huì)聯(lián)系功能，”勞倫·拜爾斯瑪說，賓夕法尼亞州匹茲堡大學(xué)精神病學(xué)和心理學(xué)助理教授。

If you're accustomed to repressing your emotions, letting yourself cry might first create anxiety if it's the first time you're letting your feelings surface.

如果你習(xí)慣了壓抑自己的情緒，那么如果這是你第一次讓自己的情緒流露出來，讓自己哭可能首先會(huì)造成焦慮。

That's normal. Shifting your perspective and indulging as needed can help you gradually overcome any discomfort, you can take it slow.

這很正常。根據(jù)需要改變你的觀點(diǎn)和縱容可以幫助你逐漸克服任何不適，你可以慢慢來。