讀點(diǎn)好英文:Forgiveness 寬恕

Forgiveness 寬恕

·Randy·

To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge.But forgiveness is possible, and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.

“People who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness.”says Frederic, Ph. D.，author of Forgive for Good，“So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital.”

So how do you start the healing?Try the following steps：

CaIm yourseIf To defuse your anger, try a simple stress-management technique.“Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure：a beautiful scene in nature, or someone you love.”Frederic says.

Don't wait for an apoIogy“Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing，”Frederic says，“they may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time.”Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.

Take the controI away from your offender MentaIIy replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain.“Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you，”Frederic says.

Try to see things from the other person's perspective If you empathize with that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear, or even love. To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offender's point of view.

Recognize the benefits of forgiveness Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns.

Don't forget to forgive yourseIf“For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest chaIIenge，”Frederic says，“but it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don't do it.”

蘭迪

寬恕或許是神圣的，但是，沒(méi)有人認(rèn)為寬恕是件容易的事。如果有人深深地傷害到你，你很難做到不記恨于心。然而，如果心存寬恕，要做到這點(diǎn)就不難了，它會(huì)為你的身心健康帶來(lái)意想不到的益處。

《寬恕的好處》的作者弗雷德里克博士說(shuō)：“懷有寬仁之心的人很少會(huì)沮喪、憤怒和壓抑，他們更易滿懷希望。由此看來(lái)，寬恕可以減少臟器的損耗，減輕免疫系統(tǒng)的疲勞，使人們更有活力?！?/p>

那么，該如何調(diào)整自己呢？試試下面的方法吧：

使自己冷靜下來(lái)　試著以一種簡(jiǎn)單的壓力管理方法來(lái)澆滅你的憤怒吧。弗雷德里克建議“做幾次深呼吸，想一想能給你帶來(lái)快樂(lè)的事物：自然界的美麗景色，或者是你深?lèi)?ài)的人”。

不要期盼道歉　弗雷德里克說(shuō)：“很多時(shí)候，傷害你的人是不會(huì)向你道歉的。他們可能是有意傷害你，也可能他們看待問(wèn)題的角度與你的截然相反。倘若你期盼他們的道歉，你會(huì)等待很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間?！币涀?，寬恕并不一定是與傷害你的人和好如初或原諒他（她）的行為。

將注意力從傷害你的人身上移開(kāi)　總是想著自己的傷痛只會(huì)助長(zhǎng)那些傷害你的人的力量。弗雷德里克說(shuō)：“你不應(yīng)關(guān)注自己受傷的情緒，而應(yīng)學(xué)會(huì)去尋找周?chē)膼?ài)、善、美?！?/p>

試著從別人的角度來(lái)考慮問(wèn)題　如果你站在他（她）的角度，就會(huì)明白，他（她）那么做是出于無(wú)知、害怕，甚至是愛(ài)。要想換個(gè)角度，你可以從傷害你的人的角度出發(fā)，給自己寫(xiě)封信。

認(rèn)識(shí)寬恕的好處　研究表明，懷有寬恕之心的人精力更充沛，胃口和睡眠也更好。

不要忘記寬恕你自己　弗雷德里克說(shuō)：“對(duì)有些人來(lái)說(shuō)，寬恕自己是最大的挑戰(zhàn)。但如果不寬恕自己，自信心便會(huì)受到打擊?！?/p>

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核心單詞

divine[di'vain]adj.神的；天賜的

depression[di'pre??n]n.沮喪，意氣消沉

reduce[ri'dju：s]v.減少；降低

apoIogy[?'p?l?d?i]n.道歉；賠罪

offender[?'fend?]n.冒犯者；違法者

mentaIIy['ment?li]adv.心理上；精神上

perspective[p?'spektiv]n.洞察力；展望；前途

chaIIenge['t??l?nd?]n.挑戰(zhàn)；質(zhì)疑；指責(zé)

實(shí)用句型

Take the controI away from your offender.

將注意力從傷害你的人身上移開(kāi)。

①這是一個(gè)祈使句。

②take away帶走，拿走。類(lèi)似的表達(dá)還有take off 起飛，take up開(kāi)始從事。

翻譯練習(xí)

1.就幾天的時(shí)間。（a couple of）

2.誰(shuí)拿走了我的鋼筆？（take away）

3.當(dāng)我情緒低落的時(shí)候，總是第一個(gè)想到你。（think of）