與家庭婚姻生活相關(guān)的英語(yǔ)詞匯

TOPIC：婚姻;生活方式;

場(chǎng)景：

情感：婚姻;戀愛(ài);幸福;離婚;

心理：如何培育健康的人際關(guān)系;如何處理負(fù)面情緒;

個(gè)人 & 伙伴：?jiǎn)未颡?dú)斗 & 合作共贏;融合;

【口語(yǔ) + 寫作】

When it comes to marriage, what you don’t know really can hurt you.

談到婚姻，無(wú)知的確會(huì)構(gòu)成傷害。

【經(jīng)典句式】

When it comes to… 談到……

Whether because of shyness, disinterest or a desire to preserve romantic mystery, many couples do not ask each other the difficult questions that can help build the foundation for astable marriage, according to relationship experts.

情感專家表示，無(wú)論是出于害羞、不關(guān)心，還是希望保留浪漫的神秘感，許多伴侶并不會(huì)互相詢問(wèn)可以幫助建立穩(wěn)固的婚姻基礎(chǔ)但是難以回答的問(wèn)題。

【經(jīng)典句式】

shyness害羞

disinterest不關(guān)心

desire欲望

preserve保留

romantic浪漫的

foundation基礎(chǔ)

a stable marriage穩(wěn)固的婚姻

relationship expert情感專家

In addition to wanting someone with whom they can raise children and build a secure life, those considering marriage now expect their spouses to be both best friend and confidant. These romantic-comedy expectations, in part thanks to Hollywood, can be difficult to live up to.

除了希望找到一個(gè)人生兒育女、安穩(wěn)地共度余生，那些想要結(jié)婚的人如今還期望另一半還是最好的朋友和知己。這種浪漫愛(ài)情喜劇般的期待要部分歸功于好萊塢，然而要實(shí)現(xiàn)這些期待并不容易。

【經(jīng)典句式】

in addition to …除了…還…

raise children生兒育女

build a secure life建立安穩(wěn)的人生

spouse伴侶

confidant知己

romantic-comedy浪漫愛(ài)情喜劇

in part thanks to部分歸功于……

live up to …實(shí)現(xiàn)

Sure, there are plenty of questions couples can ask of each other early in therelationship to help ensure a good fit, but let’s face it: most don’t.

誠(chéng)然，在關(guān)系的早期，伴侶之間可以提出許許多多的問(wèn)題來(lái)保證彼此般配。不過(guò)說(shuō)實(shí)話，多數(shù)人并不會(huì)開(kāi)口。

【經(jīng)典句式】

plenty of大量的

couple伴侶

ensure確保

“If you don’t deal with an issue before marriage, you deal with it while you’re married,” said Robert Scuka, the executive director of the National Institute of Relationship Enhancement. It can be hard to keep secrets decade after decade, and reticence before the wedding can lead to disappointments down the line.

“有問(wèn)題如果不在婚前處理的話，就需要在婚后處理，”全美關(guān)系增進(jìn)研究所(National Institute of Relationship Enhancement)的執(zhí)行總監(jiān)羅伯特·斯庫(kù)卡(RobertScuka)說(shuō)。實(shí)在是很難年復(fù)一年地保守秘密，而婚前的緘默可能會(huì)導(dǎo)致后面的失望。

【經(jīng)典句式】

deal with處理

issue問(wèn)題

executive director執(zhí)行總監(jiān)

enhancement鞏固

keep secret保守秘密

reticence緘默

lead to 導(dǎo)致

disappointment失望

down the line后期的

The following questions, intimate and sometimes awkward, are designed to spark honest discussions and possibly give couples a chance to spill secrets before it’s too late.

以下這些問(wèn)題性質(zhì)私密，有些還會(huì)帶來(lái)尷尬，但它們的目的是激發(fā)開(kāi)誠(chéng)布公的討論，給情侶們一個(gè)在無(wú)可挽回之前分享秘密的機(jī)會(huì)。

【經(jīng)典句式】

intimate私密的

awkward尷尬的

spark激發(fā)

honest開(kāi)誠(chéng)布公的

spill secrets分享秘密

1. Did your family throw plates, calmly discuss issues orsilently shut downwhen disagreements arose?

1. 當(dāng)有分歧出現(xiàn)的時(shí)候，你的家人是會(huì)摔盤子、冷靜地討論，還是緘口不言?

【經(jīng)典句式】

calmly冷靜地

shut down關(guān)掉

arise出現(xiàn)

A relationship’s success is based on how differences are dealt with,said Peter Pearson, a founder of the Couples Institute.As we are all shaped by our family’s dynamic,he said, this question will give you insight into whether your partner will come to mimic the conflict resolution patterns of his or herparents or avoid them.

伴侶研究所(Couples Institute)的創(chuàng)始人之一彼得·皮爾遜(Peter Pearson)指出，一段關(guān)系的成功與否取決于如何應(yīng)對(duì)分歧。他說(shuō)，鑒于我們都會(huì)受到自己家庭的影響，這個(gè)問(wèn)題將讓你一窺伴侶到底是會(huì)模仿父母的沖突解決模式，還是會(huì)加以避免。

【經(jīng)典句式】

deal with處理

founder創(chuàng)始人

institute機(jī)構(gòu);研究所

shape塑造

dynamic動(dòng)態(tài)

give… insight into … 賦予……關(guān)于……的洞見(jiàn)

partner伴侶

mimic模仿

conflict沖突

resolution解決

pattern模式

2. Will we have children, and if we do,will you change diapers?

2. 我們是否會(huì)生小孩?如果生的話，你會(huì)換尿布嗎?

【經(jīng)典句式】

diaper尿布

change diaper換尿布

With the question of children, it isimportant to not just say what you think your partner wants to hear, according to Debbie Martinez, a divorce and relationship coach. Before marrying, couples should honestly discuss if they want children. How many do they want? At what point dothey want to have them? And how do they imagine their roles as parents? Talking about birth-control methods before planning a pregnancy is also important, said Marty Klein, a sex and marriage therapist.

離婚與情感問(wèn)題顧問(wèn)黛比·馬丁內(nèi)茲(Debbie Martinez)表示，談到孩子的問(wèn)題，重要的是，不要只說(shuō)你覺(jué)得伴侶愛(ài)聽(tīng)的話。結(jié)婚之前，情侶們應(yīng)該坦率地討論是否生小孩?生幾個(gè)?什么時(shí)候生?想象中自己當(dāng)父母會(huì)是怎么樣的?性愛(ài)與婚姻咨詢師馬蒂·克萊因(Marty Klein)表示，在計(jì)劃懷孕之前討論避孕方法也很重要。

【經(jīng)典句式】

partner伴侶

birth-control method避孕方法

pregnancy懷孕

therapist咨詢師

TOPIC：婚姻;生活方式;

場(chǎng)景：

情感：婚姻;戀愛(ài);幸福;離婚;

心理：如何培育健康的人際關(guān)系;如何處理負(fù)面情緒;

個(gè)人 & 伙伴：?jiǎn)未颡?dú)斗 & 合作共贏;融合;

【口語(yǔ) + 寫作】

3. Will our experiences with our exes helpor hinder us?

3. 與前任在一起的經(jīng)歷對(duì)我們是會(huì)有所幫助還是阻礙?

【經(jīng)典句式】

hinder阻礙

Bradford Wilcox, the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, pointed to research his organization has sponsored that indicated that having had many serious relationships can pose a risk for divorce and lower marital quality. (This can be because of a person having more experience with serious breakups and potentially comparing a current partner unfavorably with past ones.) Raising these issues early on can help,Dr. Wilcox said. Dr. Klein said people are “hesitant to explicitly talk about their past” and can feel retroactively jealous or judgmental. “The only real way to have those conversations in an intimate and productive way and loving way is to agree to accept that the other person had a life before the couple,” he said.

弗吉尼亞大學(xué)全美婚姻項(xiàng)目(National Marriage Project)的主任布拉德福德·威爾科克斯(Bradford Wilcox)，援引旗下團(tuán)隊(duì)支持的研究指出，假如之前有過(guò)許多嚴(yán)肅的關(guān)系，則可能帶來(lái)離婚或婚姻質(zhì)量較低的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。(或許是因?yàn)椋@樣的人經(jīng)歷了更多慘痛的分手，可能會(huì)將當(dāng)下的伴侶與前任進(jìn)行不利的比較。)威爾科克斯博士認(rèn)為，一早提出這些問(wèn)題會(huì)有所幫助?？巳R因博士則稱，大家“不愿直截了當(dāng)?shù)卣劶斑^(guò)去”，還可能對(duì)以前的事情產(chǎn)生嫉妒或苛責(zé)的感覺(jué)。“以親密、有效且關(guān)愛(ài)的方式進(jìn)行此類對(duì)話的唯一辦法是，接受對(duì)方和你在一起之前是有歷史的，”他說(shuō)。

【經(jīng)典句式】

sponsor資助

indicate說(shuō)明

pose a risk for 使有風(fēng)險(xiǎn)

marital quality 婚姻質(zhì)量

break up分手

potentially潛在地

unfavorably不利地

raise… issue 提出…問(wèn)題

hesitant猶豫的

explicitly直截了當(dāng)?shù)?/p>

jealous嫉妒

judgmental苛責(zé)的

conversation對(duì)話

4. How important is religion? How will we celebrate religious holidays,if at all?

4. 宗教的重要性有多大?如果要慶祝宗教節(jié)日的話，會(huì)是怎樣的形式?

【經(jīng)典句式】

religion宗教

celebrate慶祝

religious holiday宗教節(jié)日

If two people come from different religious backgrounds, is each going to pursuehis or her own religious affiliation? Dr. Scuka has worked with couples on encouraging honest discussion around this issue as the executive director of the National Institute of Relationship Enhancement. What is more, spouses are especially likely to experience conflict over religious traditions when children are added to the mix, according to Dr. Wilcox. If the couple decide to have children, they must ask how the children’s religious education will be handled. It is better to have a plan, he said.

倘若二人來(lái)自不同的宗教背景，是各自踐行自身的宗教嗎?擔(dān)任全美關(guān)系增進(jìn)研究所執(zhí)行總監(jiān)期間，斯庫(kù)卡博士為一些伴侶提供咨詢的時(shí)候鼓勵(lì)他們就這類議題進(jìn)行坦率的討論。威爾科克斯表示，除此之外，當(dāng)涉及到子女的時(shí)候，配偶之間尤其容易因宗教傳統(tǒng)產(chǎn)生沖突。如果兩人決定要小孩，他們必須探討如何處理孩子的宗教教育問(wèn)題。他說(shuō)，最好是有所規(guī)劃。

【經(jīng)典句式】

religious background宗教背景

pursue追求

religious affiliation宗教隸屬

executive director總監(jiān)

spouse配偶

likely傾向于;可能的

experience conflict over …碰到……的沖突

religious tradition宗教傳統(tǒng)

when… are added to the mix當(dāng)涉及到……的時(shí)候

handle處理;解決

5. Is my debt your debt? Would you be willing to bail me out?

5. 一方有債，是否共同承擔(dān)?你是否愿意在經(jīng)濟(jì)上資助我?

【經(jīng)典句式】

debt債務(wù)

be willing to do sth 愿意……

bail… out拯救;撈人

It’s important to know how your partnerfeels about financial self-sufficiency and whether he or she expects you to keep your resources separate,said Frederick Hertz, a divorce lawyer. Disclosing debts is very important. Equally, if there is a serious discrepancy between your income and your partner’s, Dr. Scuka recommended creating abasic budget according to proportional incomes. Many couples fail to discuss sharing finances, though it is crucial, he said.

離婚律師弗雷德里克·赫茲(Frederick Hertz)表示，重要的一點(diǎn)是了解你的伴侶對(duì)財(cái)務(wù)獨(dú)立的看法，了解他或她是否希望將你們的財(cái)務(wù)分開(kāi)管理。向伴侶披露自己的債務(wù)信息，是非常重要的。同樣地，如果你和伴侶之間收入差異很大，斯庫(kù)卡博士會(huì)建議你們根據(jù)收入比例，建立一個(gè)基本的支出預(yù)算。他說(shuō)有很多情侶不談?wù)摲謸?dān)財(cái)務(wù)的問(wèn)題，盡管這點(diǎn)極為重要。

【經(jīng)典句式】

financial self-sufficiency財(cái)務(wù)獨(dú)立

separate分開(kāi)的

disclose披露

debt債務(wù)

discrepancy矛盾

income收入

recommend建議

budget預(yù)算

proportional按比例的

sharing finances分擔(dān)財(cái)務(wù)

crucial極為重要的

6. What’s the most you would be willing to spend on acar, a couch, shoes?

6. 為一輛車、一張沙發(fā)或一雙鞋，你最多愿意花多少錢?

【經(jīng)典句式】

be willing to do sth 愿意……

Couples should make sure they are on the same page in terms of financial caution or recklessness. Buying a caris a great indicator,according to Mr. Hertz. Couples can also frame this question around what they spend reckless amounts of money on, he said.

情侶們應(yīng)該確保他們?cè)谪?cái)務(wù)方面的謹(jǐn)慎或冒進(jìn)程度是一致的。據(jù)赫茲博士講，買一輛車是個(gè)不錯(cuò)的衡量指標(biāo)。他說(shuō)，情侶們也可以把問(wèn)題換成，他們會(huì)在哪些東西上無(wú)所顧忌地花錢。

【經(jīng)典句式】

in terms of 在……方面

be on the same page 達(dá)成一致

financial caution 財(cái)務(wù)謹(jǐn)慎

recklessness冒進(jìn)

indicator指標(biāo)

frame…設(shè)計(jì)框架

reckless無(wú)所顧忌的

TOPIC：婚姻;生活方式;

場(chǎng)景：

情感：婚姻;戀愛(ài);幸福;離婚;

心理：如何培育健康的人際關(guān)系;如何處理負(fù)面情緒;

個(gè)人 & 伙伴：?jiǎn)未颡?dú)斗 & 合作共贏;融合;

【口語(yǔ) + 寫作】

7. Can you deal with my doing things without you?

7. 你能接受我不帶你，自己去做一些事嗎?

【經(jīng)典句式】

deal with處理

Goinginto marriage, many people hope to keep their autonomy in certain areasof their life at the same time they are building a partnership with their spouse, according to Seth Eisenberg, the president of Pairs (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills). This means they may be unwilling to share hobbies or friends, and this can lead to tension and feelings of rejection if it isn’t discussed. Couples may also have different expectations as to what “privacy” means, added Dr. Klein, and that should be discussed, too. Dr. Wilcox suggested asking your partner when he or she most needs to be alone.

培訓(xùn)機(jī)構(gòu)“親密關(guān)系技能實(shí)際應(yīng)用”(Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills，簡(jiǎn)稱PARIS)的總裁塞斯·艾森伯格(SethEisenberg)認(rèn)為，在走進(jìn)婚姻的時(shí)候，很多人在和配偶構(gòu)筑伙伴關(guān)系的同時(shí)，也會(huì)想在某些生活領(lǐng)域保持自己的獨(dú)立性。這意味著，他們可能不愿分享自己的愛(ài)好或朋友，如果不就這個(gè)進(jìn)行溝通，有可能會(huì)讓另一方產(chǎn)生被排斥感，導(dǎo)致二人關(guān)系緊張?？巳R因博士則表示，對(duì)于尊重“隱私”到底意味著什么，雙方也可能會(huì)有不一樣的期待，同樣需要就此進(jìn)行討論。威爾科克斯博士建議，可以問(wèn)一問(wèn)你的伴侶，他或她在什么情況下最需要個(gè)人空間。

【經(jīng)典句式】

going into marriage 走進(jìn)婚姻;結(jié)婚

autonomy自治

spouse配偶

application應(yīng)用

intimate relationship親密關(guān)系

be unwilling to do sth不情愿……

lead to導(dǎo)致

tension緊張

as to關(guān)于

privacy隱私

8. Do we like each other’s parents?

8. 我們喜歡彼此的父母嗎?

Aslong as you and your partner present a united front, having a bad relationship with your in-laws can be manageable, Dr.Scuka said. But if a spouse is not willing to address the issue with hisor her parents, it can bode very poorly for the long-term health of the relationship, he said. At the same time, Dr. Pearson said,considering the strengths and weaknesses of your parents can illuminate future patterns of attachment or distancing in your own relationship.

斯庫(kù)卡認(rèn)為，只要你和伴侶立場(chǎng)統(tǒng)一，和姻親關(guān)系不好的問(wèn)題就是可控的。但他說(shuō)如果一方不愿解決與他或她父母有關(guān)的問(wèn)題，對(duì)二人關(guān)系長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的健康發(fā)展而言，就不是一個(gè)好兆頭。與此同時(shí)，皮爾遜博士表示，分析你父母的優(yōu)點(diǎn)和缺點(diǎn)，對(duì)了解二人未來(lái)的伴侶關(guān)系中的依戀或疏遠(yuǎn)模式，會(huì)有所啟發(fā)。

【經(jīng)典句式】

as long as只要

present a united front立場(chǎng)統(tǒng)一

in-law姻親

manageable可控的

spouse配偶

be not willing to do sth不情愿……

address the issue 解決問(wèn)題

bode very poorly for …不是一個(gè)好兆頭

long-term長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的

health of the relationship關(guān)系的健康程度

strength優(yōu)點(diǎn);長(zhǎng)處

weakness弱點(diǎn)

illuminate說(shuō)明

pattern模式

attachment依戀;附屬

distancing疏遠(yuǎn)

9. How important is sex to you?

9. 性對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)有多重要?

Couples today expect to remain sexually excited by their spouse, an expectation that did not exist in the past, according to Mr. Eisenberg. A healthy relationship will include discussion of what partners enjoy about sex as well as how often they expect to have it, Dr. Klein said. If people are looking to experience different things through sex — pleasure versus feeling young, for example —some negotiation may be required to ensure both partners remainsatisfied.

艾森伯格表示，如今的情侶期待能對(duì)伴侶在性方面保持興奮感，這在過(guò)去的夫妻身上是沒(méi)有的?？巳R因博士認(rèn)為，在一段健康的關(guān)系中，雙方應(yīng)該能討論彼此在性方面的喜好和歡愛(ài)的頻率。如果雙方期待通過(guò)性所獲得東西不一樣，比如一方想獲得愉悅，另一方想藉此感覺(jué)年輕，可能就需要進(jìn)行協(xié)商，以確保雙方都能繼續(xù)得到滿足感。

【經(jīng)典句式】

remain保持

spouse伴侶

a healthy relationship一段健康的關(guān)系

negotiation協(xié)商

require需要

ensure確保

10. How far should we take flirting with other people?Is watching pornography O.K.?

10. 與他人的調(diào)情可以進(jìn)行到什么程度?看AV可以接受嗎?

【經(jīng)典句式】

flirt with調(diào)情

pornography黃片

Dr. Klein said couples should discuss their attitudes about pornography,flirting and expectations for sexual exclusivity.A couple’s agreement on behavior in this area can, and most likely will, change down the line, he said, but it is good to set the tone early on so both partners are comfortable discussing it. Ideally,sexual exclusivity should be talked about in the same way as other day-to-day concerns, so that problems can be dealt with before a partner becomes angry, he said. Dr.Pearson suggested asking your partner outright for his or her views on pornography. Couples are often too scared to ask about this early in the relationship, but he has frequently seen it become a point of tension down the line, he said.

克萊因表示，情侶們應(yīng)該談?wù)摳髯栽谏樽髌?、調(diào)情，以及雙方保持排他的性關(guān)系等問(wèn)題上的看法。他說(shuō)，情侶雙方就此達(dá)成的一致意見(jiàn)，很有可能還會(huì)在以后發(fā)生改變，但在早期定下基調(diào)是件好事，這樣雙方就可以自然地討論這類問(wèn)題。他說(shuō)，比較理想的是，應(yīng)該像談?wù)撊粘ｊP(guān)心的其他事一樣，談?wù)撆潘男躁P(guān)系，這樣就提前處理了可能會(huì)出現(xiàn)的問(wèn)題，避免出現(xiàn)惹怒對(duì)方的情況。皮爾遜建議坦率地問(wèn)問(wèn)你的伴侶對(duì)色情作品是什么看法。他說(shuō)，情侶在關(guān)系發(fā)展的早期通常不敢問(wèn)對(duì)方這個(gè)問(wèn)題，但這點(diǎn)往往會(huì)在以后成為導(dǎo)致雙方關(guān)系緊張的一個(gè)方面。

【經(jīng)典句式】

pornography黃片

flirt調(diào)情

exclusivity排他性

likely可能的

set the tone 定下基調(diào)

earlyon在早期

ideally理想地

day-to-day日常的

concern關(guān)心

outright坦率地

tension緊張

11. Do you know all the ways I say “I loveyou”?

11. 你知道都有哪些表達(dá)“我愛(ài)你”的方式嗎?

Gary Chapman’s 1992 book, “The 5 LoveLanguages,” introduced this meansof categorizing expressions of love to strengthen a marriage. Ms. Martinez hands her premarriage clientsa list of the five love languages: affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. She asks them to mark their primary and secondary languages and what they think is their partner’s, and discuss them. Mr. Eisenberg said that a couple needs to work out how to nurture the relationship, in a way specific to them.

在1992年的著作《五種愛(ài)之語(yǔ)》(The 5 Love Languages)里，加里·查普曼(Gary Chapman)介紹了這種區(qū)分表達(dá)愛(ài)的方式以鞏固婚姻的方式。馬丁內(nèi)斯給她那些即將結(jié)婚的客戶列出了這五種愛(ài)之語(yǔ)：肯定、愉悅時(shí)光、接到禮物、為對(duì)方服務(wù)、身體接觸。她讓他們?cè)谄渲袠?biāo)出自己的第一和第二愛(ài)之語(yǔ)，也標(biāo)出他們認(rèn)為伴侶比較多采用的兩種，然后進(jìn)行討論。艾森伯格表示，伴侶需要搞清楚如何用一種他們獨(dú)有的方式增進(jìn)彼此的關(guān)系。

【經(jīng)典句式】

means方式

categorize區(qū)分

strengthen鞏固

hand遞給

client客戶

affirmation肯定

quality time愉悅時(shí)光;黃金時(shí)間

physical touch身體接觸

primary首要的

work out搞清楚

nurture培育

nurture the relationship增進(jìn)關(guān)系

12. What do you admire about me, and what are your pet peeves?

12. 我身上有哪些東西是你比較欣賞的，又有哪些是你不能忍受的?

【經(jīng)典句式】

admire欣賞

pet peeve不能忍受的事

Can you imagine the challenges ever outweighing the admiration? If so, whatwould you do? Anne Klaeysen, a leader of the New York Society for Ethical Culture, said thatcouples rarely consider that second question. Ideally, marriage is a life commitment, she said, and it’s not enoughto just “click together,”as many couples describe their relationship. A marriage must go deeper thanthat original “click.”

你知道有些挑戰(zhàn)會(huì)消磨你對(duì)伴侶的愛(ài)慕之情嗎?如果知道，你會(huì)怎么辦?紐約道德文化學(xué)會(huì)(New York Society for Ethical Culture)的一名負(fù)責(zé)人安·克萊伊森(Anne Klaeysen)表示，情侶們很少考慮第二個(gè)問(wèn)題。她說(shuō)，在理想的情況下，婚姻是一生一世的相守，僅有“一見(jiàn)如故”是不夠的。這個(gè)詞是很多情侶在描述他們的關(guān)系時(shí)會(huì)用到的。但婚姻必須比最初的“合拍”走得更加深入。

【經(jīng)典句式】

outweigh超過(guò)

admiration愛(ài)慕;欣賞

ethical道德的

ideally理想地

a life commitment一生一世的約定

click together合拍

13. How do you see us 10 years from now?

13. 你覺(jué)得十年后的我們會(huì)是什么樣?

Keeping the answer to this question in mindcan help a couple deal with current conflict as they work toward their ultimate relationship goals, according to Mr. Eisenberg.

艾森伯格認(rèn)為，將你對(duì)這個(gè)問(wèn)題的答案記在心里，會(huì)有助于配偶一邊努力實(shí)現(xiàn)自己在婚姻關(guān)系上的終極目標(biāo)，一邊解決眼下的沖突。

【經(jīng)典句式】

current目前的

conflict沖突

ultimate終極的

Dr. Wilcox said this discussion could also be an opportunity to raise the question of whether each partner will consider divorce if the relationship deteriorates,or whether they expect marriage to be for life, come what may.

威爾科克斯表示，這種討論也提供了一個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)，讓你可以了解伴侶是否會(huì)在雙方關(guān)系惡化時(shí)考慮離婚，還是說(shuō)他們覺(jué)得，不管發(fā)生什么，婚姻都是一輩子的事。

【經(jīng)典句式】

raise the question of提出問(wèn)題

deteriorate惡化