第一次約會：11個小細(xì)節(jié)助你成功把妹

It doesn’t matter where or how you got one, first dates are awesome. And terrifying。不論你在哪兒及怎樣約會，初次約會感覺很棒。還有些嚇人。

Whether you’re meeting up with your hairdresser’s cousin’s single friend, or you’ve decided to choose an unusual date on HowAboutWe, there are more ‘first world problems’ in the world of dating now than ever. On your first date, they can be deal-breakers, so check out these 11 first date tips for modern love lives。不管你是要去見你理發(fā)師的堂兄弟的單身朋友，還是你決定在約會交友網(wǎng)站HowAboutWe上選擇一位不尋常的對象，如今約會是到的“重大” 問題比起以往要來得多。它們可能會成為初次約會的“不速之客”，因此看看這11條關(guān)于現(xiàn)代愛情生活的初次約會的建議吧。

1. Know when it’s a date (and when it isn’t)分清什么時候是在約會(什么時候不是約會)

There are no hard rules any more when it comes to what counts as a date. You could go for nachos

with several friends and still make that your first date if you both want to. Or you could meet one-on-one, have dinner, sleep together, and call it “friends with benefits”. That being so, your safest bet is to be clear by calling it a date when you agree where and when to meet up。關(guān)于怎么界定什么是約會已經(jīng)沒有很嚴(yán)格的規(guī)則了。你可以約幾個朋友一起去吃烤干酪辣味玉米片，如果你們倆都愿意的話，這同樣可以當(dāng)成你們的初次約會。你也可以一對一見面、吃飯、睡覺，稱之為“炮友”。也就是說，最穩(wěn)妥的做法是，你要清楚你們?nèi)绾谓缍ㄔ谀睦锛霸谑裁磿r候見面算約會。

2. Talk, don’t text交談，不要發(fā)短信

Asking someone on a date by text or IM might seem like a great way to dodge confidence issues, but it loses a lot of your message. Instead, make the arrangements the old-fashioned way by phone or in person so that you can hear each other’s voices. And if you’re invited on a date via SMS, text back, “Sounds good. Give me a call when you’re free to talk about it!”通過短信或IM(即時通訊軟件)約會似乎是一種規(guī)避信心不足的非常好的方法，但它會丟失了很多信息。用傳統(tǒng)的方式安排約會，那就是打電話，或面對面說，這樣你可以聽到彼此的聲音。如果別人發(fā)短信邀約你，你就回復(fù)：“聽起來不錯。如果你方便溝通的話，給我打個電話。”

3. Don’t do dinner不要選擇吃飯時間

Dinner takes a while and if you’re desperate to escape after the first drink, you’ll wish you’d arranged a shorter date! Go for a lunch date instead, or choose a non-food situation like a walk in the park. That way you can leave early if you want, or make it last all afternoon if you’re having fun。吃晚餐很花時間，如果在喝完第一杯酒以后你非常想離開，你會希望你安排了一次簡短的約會。可以選擇吃頓午飯，或是不要選擇吃飯的時段，比如在公園里散個步。這樣的話，如果你想早點結(jié)束約會，就可以早點走啦;或是你覺得很有趣，可以讓它持續(xù)一整個下午。

4. Agree a connectivity policy協(xié)商一致

Do you hate it when people answer phone calls during a date? Or are you too busy tweeting to notice? Agree with your date from the start about what’s OK and what’s rude so that you won’t get annoyed with each other’s mobile interruptions。約會時對方還在接電話，你是不是不喜歡?或是你自己忙著發(fā)微博?從一開始和約會對象商定哪些是允許的，哪些是不禮貌的舉動，這樣當(dāng)對方手機(jī)響起打擾你們談話時，你就用不著生氣了。

5. Smell nice清新的氣味

Smell is one of the most complex human senses; it triggers emotions, memories, and physical feelings. If you smell nice to your date, they’ll find you more attractive; if you smell nice to yourself, you’ll feel more confident and attractive, too. Scents that most people (male or female) like include fruits, vanilla, and clean human skin。嗅覺是人類最復(fù)雜的感官之一;它會激發(fā)情感、記憶、和身體的感受。如果氣味不令人討厭，你就更有吸引力;如果你自己覺得氣味不錯，你會更有自信和更有吸引力。大多數(shù)人(包括男性和女性)喜歡的氣味包括水果味、香草味和清潔的體味。

6. Ask them to do you a favour請他們幫你一個忙

It may sound backwards, but it’s true. Research shows that asking somebody to do you a personal favour tends to make them like you more, so ask for something small like their help to choose a gift for a friend. Then thank them plenty and show your gratitude by inviting them on a second date!聽起來可能會不理解，但這是真的。研究表明，請別人幫你一個忙通常會讓他們更加喜歡你，所以請他們幫個小忙，比如說在為朋友選禮物上給個建議。然后深情地謝謝他們，再次邀約他們以表達(dá)你的謝意。

7. Pick up your own tab為自己那一份買單

It’s so much less complicated than negotiating any other payment arrangement with someone you barely know. And because it’s fair, neither of you will feel owed or owing。比起和你幾乎不了解的人商量如何結(jié)賬，各付各的就沒那么復(fù)雜了。因為這是公平的，所以你們雙方不會覺得誰欠誰。

8. No humblebragging不要過分謙虛

Yes, it’s impressive that you compete in triathlons/run your own business/know that DJ. It’s so impressive that pretending to be humble or embarrassed when you’re actually pretty damn proud is just silly. Brag openly and briefly, as in, “Yeah, I do triathlons. I won the Example Triathlon last year,” then get back to whatever you were talking about before that。是的，你參加三項全能運(yùn)動/有自己的生意/認(rèn)為那個DJ，這些會令人對你刮目相看。這些如此令人刮目相看，對那些你其實引以為傲的事情假裝謙卑或難為情，這是很蠢的做法。大方而且簡要地夸耀自己，比如說“是的，我參加了三項全能運(yùn)動。我去年獲得了鐵人三項參與獎。”然后回到你之前談?wù)摰脑掝}上。

9. Eat mint吃點薄荷糖

Do this not just to make sure your breath smells OK, but also because it perks you up. Mint helps you feel fresh, alert and ready for conversation. Plus, eating something minty prevents your mouth getting too dry if you’re nervous。這樣做不只是保證口氣清新，而且它還能讓你振奮。薄荷讓你感覺清新，為談話做好準(zhǔn)備。此外，吃些帶薄荷味的東西，當(dāng)你緊張時能避免嘴唇發(fā)干。

10. Be prepared做好準(zhǔn)備

No matter who you are, there’s always a possibility that your first date could lead to sex, perhaps sooner than you thought. Be prepared with protection against pregnancy and STIs, of course, but it’s also important to prepare for the hormonal rush you’ll feel if there’s strong sexual chemistry between you and your date. Those hormones affect your judgement, so don’t take any unnecessary risks like driving too fast or drinking too much alcohol。不管你是誰，在初次約會時和對方發(fā)生性關(guān)系都是有可能的，也許來得比你想的還要早。準(zhǔn)備好避孕措施及預(yù)防性傳播感染，當(dāng)然，同樣重要的是在你和你的約會對象之間產(chǎn)生強(qiáng)烈的性吸引力時，做好各種準(zhǔn)備。這些激素會影響你的判斷力，所以不要冒任何風(fēng)險，比如開快車，或是酗酒。

11. Smile!微笑

A genuine smile makes everyone look more attractive, without exception, so give your date a big smile when you see them. Because smiling triggers your nervous system to release serotonin, it improves your mood at the same time to help you enjoy the date。無一例外，真誠的微笑讓人看起來更有吸引力，所以去約會時，看到他們就給他們一個燦爛的微笑。因為微笑會觸發(fā)神經(jīng)系統(tǒng)釋放血清素，它在改善情緒的同時幫助你享受約會的快樂。

Don’t worry about minor mishaps on a first date. The less you fret about it, the more relaxed and confident you’ll feel. Keep these first date tips in mind to boost your date from average to awesome, and remember: this isn’t a job interview. It’s supposed to be fun!不要擔(dān)心初次約會時發(fā)生的小意外。擔(dān)憂越少，你就越輕松、越自信。記住這些初次約會時的小建議，把你的約會從平庸提升到美妙，記?。哼@不是求職面試，初次約會就應(yīng)該很好玩才對!