Get Out and Do
After a few weeks, I urge people recovering from loss to get back into a routine," says psychiatrist and Boston University professor Bessel A. Vanderkolk."It’s important to force yourself to concentrate on things other than your hurt." Consider these activities:
Join a support group. Once you’ve made the decision to "get on with life", you’ll need someone to talk to .... and the most effective kind of conversation can be with someone else who has undergone a severe test.
Read. When you can focus after the initial shock, reading-- especially self-help books can offer inspiration as well as relaxation.
Keep a Journal. Many find comfort in creating an ongoing record of their experiences. At best it can serve as a kind of self-therapy.
Plan events. The idea that there are things to look forward to reinforces that you are forging ahead into a fresh future. Schedule that trip you’ve been postponing.
Learn new skills. Take a course at a community college,or take up a new hobby or sport. You have a new life ahead:any new skill will complement it.
Reward yourself. During highly stressful times, even the simplest daily things - getting up, showering, fixing something to eat- can seem discouraging. Consider every accomplishment, no matter how small, a victory to be rewarded.
Exercise. Physical activity can be especially therapeutic. "Exercise gets you out of your head and your troubles,"Aronoff explains, "and it allows you to experience your body with your two feet on the ground."
走出困境，振作起來
精神病專家、波士頓大學教授巴塞爾·A·萬德科克說：“幾周后，我鼓勵人們從失落中恢復(fù)過來進入正常狀態(tài)。迫使你自己把注意力集中到事情上而不是集中到你的傷痛上，這一點是非常重要的。”考慮以下行動：加，入一個相互支持的團體。一旦你做出決定"繼續(xù)生活”，你需要找個人談?wù)?。而最有效的談話方式是與其他那些經(jīng)歷過苦痛的人談話。
讀書。在經(jīng)歷了最初的創(chuàng)傷后，你能集中注意力的方式是讀書，尤其是自助自立書，因為它能給人以激勵和放松。
記日記。許多人通過持續(xù)記錄他們的經(jīng)歷來尋求安慰。至少它可以作為一種自我治療。
做計劃。認為有許多事情值得期待的觀點刺激你快速奔向一個全新的未來。對被你推遲的旅行重新做出計劃。
學習新技術(shù)。在社區(qū)大學上課或培養(yǎng)一種新興趣或運動。新生活就在你面前，任何新技術(shù)會成為你新生活的補充。
獎賞你自己。在壓力大的時候，即使是最簡單的日?，嵤乱?hellip;—起床、洗澡、做飯也惹人心煩。想一下每一次勝利完成的事情，不管它是多么小的成功，只要是勝利就應(yīng)受獎勵。
鍛煉。體育運動尤其有助于治療。“體育運動能幫你從令你頭痛的事及困難中解脫出來。”阿隆諾夫解釋說，“它允許你通過雙腳立地來感受你的身體。”
