1. Repeat, Repeat, Repeat 重復(fù)重復(fù)再重復(fù) 以提問(wèn)的方式重復(fù)別人的最后一句話,這種技巧可以稱之為“ 0
1. Repeat, Repeat, Repeat 重復(fù)重復(fù)再重復(fù)
以提問(wèn)的方式重復(fù)別人的最后一句話,這種技巧可以稱之為“鸚鵡學(xué)舌”。因?yàn)槊總€(gè)人都喜歡就自己感興趣的方面展開(kāi)話題,如果你重復(fù)他們已經(jīng)說(shuō)的話,就等于為他們的個(gè)人愛(ài)好“煽風(fēng)點(diǎn)火”。
Example:
You: What did you get up to on the weekend。
你:周末干嘛去了?
Him: Went to the ball game on Saturday。
他:周六去看球賽了。
You: You went to the game on Saturday?
你:你周六去看球賽啦?
Him: Yeh, I did, took my son along for his first game. But it was good to see my team win!
他:是啊,帶我兒子去看了他人生第一場(chǎng)球賽。不過(guò)很高興我們隊(duì)獲勝了!
You: So it was good to see the team win?
你:所以說(shuō)球隊(duì)獲勝了讓你很高興吧?
Him: Yeh, they have been strugglinga lot lately, and had lots of injuries。
他:是啊,他們近期一直很努力,為此受了很多傷。
想想用這種辦法你能聊多久!
2. Become a word spy 注意他人的用詞
你需要注意聽(tīng)對(duì)方說(shuō)到的一些詞,然后鎖定一個(gè)目標(biāo),作為接下去的問(wèn)題或話題。
Example:
大多數(shù)人都遇到過(guò)那種說(shuō)話只說(shuō)幾個(gè)字,看上去態(tài)度很粗魯?shù)娜税伞?/p>
You: So been busy today?
你:今天很忙吧?
Him: Yes. (one word answer)
他:是。(一個(gè)字)
You: How's the weather today? Pretty wet, isn't it?
你:今天天氣怎么樣?挺潮濕的不是嗎?
Him: Yes, but the farmers will stop complaining. (again in the rude voice)
他:是,但是農(nóng)民們不會(huì)再抱怨了。(仍然是粗魯?shù)恼Z(yǔ)氣)
很多人大概會(huì)繼續(xù)問(wèn)些無(wú)聊的問(wèn)題,但是你應(yīng)該抓住他所提到的farmer這個(gè)詞。
You: You know some farmers, don't you?
你:你認(rèn)識(shí)一些農(nóng)民不是嗎?
Him: Yes, I actually grew up on a farm. (his tone of voice graduallystarting to change)
他:是啊,其實(shí)我在農(nóng)場(chǎng)上長(zhǎng)大。(語(yǔ)氣逐漸轉(zhuǎn)變)
You: So did I. Where was you farm?
你:我也是的。你家農(nóng)場(chǎng)在哪兒?
從這里開(kāi)始,對(duì)話就能繼續(xù)進(jìn)行下去了。
給大家的提示:人在交談中遇到自己感興趣的事物時(shí),就不會(huì)用一兩個(gè)字打發(fā)過(guò)去。你就需要去發(fā)現(xiàn)這一點(diǎn),找到他們的興趣所在,點(diǎn)燃談話熱情。
3. Eavesdrop偷聽(tīng)
這個(gè)技巧從字面本身就可以理解了吧,在你想要向陌生人(比如和你同一領(lǐng)域的商業(yè)大腕,想要認(rèn)識(shí)的知名人士,甚至是可愛(ài)的女孩子)介紹自己時(shí)可以運(yùn)用。你只需在一旁傾聽(tīng)他同別人都談些什么,估測(cè)這人的興趣所在。如果發(fā)現(xiàn)某個(gè)自己可以參與的話題,那就是你上場(chǎng)的時(shí)候了。
Example:
你聽(tīng)到他們說(shuō)起法國(guó)之旅,你可以走過(guò)去說(shuō):
I couldn't help but overhearyou were going to head to Paris later in the summer, I am actually a big fan of the city and have been there several times myself。
我無(wú)意中聽(tīng)到你們說(shuō)在夏天晚些時(shí)候要去巴黎,事實(shí)上我超喜歡那座城市,而且已經(jīng)去過(guò)幾次了。
這樣就是一個(gè)很好的開(kāi)始,而且足以讓對(duì)話進(jìn)行下去。