雙語(yǔ)智慧書·開始于他人，受用于自己

144．開始于他人，受用于自己
　　開始于他人，受用于自己。這是一個(gè)可使你得償所愿的計(jì)策。即使是非世俗之事，基督教的牧師也強(qiáng)調(diào)這條神圣的詭計(jì)。這種掩飾重要至極，因?yàn)榭梢园扬@而易見的好處當(dāng)作誘餌去控制他人意志。看起來他的事已準(zhǔn)備就緒，實(shí)際上是為你自己的事開路。如果沒有掩護(hù)，決不能前進(jìn)，尤其是在危險(xiǎn)地帶。與此類似，和那些一開始總是說"不"的人交往，避免受挫的方法就是巧妙地提出你的想法，讓他不覺得同意有何難處。此建議也屬于有關(guān)三思而行的準(zhǔn)則（箴言13），它涵蓋了最精妙的人生處世技巧。


144．Begin with another's to end with your own
　Begin with another's to end with your own. It is a politic means to your end. Even in heavenly matters Christian teachers lay stress on this holy cunning. It is a weighty piece of dissimulation, for the foreseen advantages serve as a lure to influence the other's will. His affair seems to be in train when it is really only leading the way for your own. One should never advance unless under cover, especially where the ground is dangerous. Likewise with persons who always say No at first, it is useful to ward off this blow, because the difficulty of conceding much more does not occur to them when your version is presented to them. This advice belongs to the rule about second thoughts, which covers the most subtle manoeuvres of life.