有哪些人生經(jīng)驗是反直覺或反常識的?

　　Q: What life lessons are counter-intuitive or go against common sense or wisdom?

　　問：有哪些人生經(jīng)驗是反直覺或反常識的?

　　Answered by Anonymous

　　匿名回復(fù)：

　　So many. Life is a giant lump of contradictions.

　　太多了。生活就是一個巨大的矛盾體。

　　1. People who don't trust other people can't be trusted. I'm not sure why this is true, but it's never failed as a barometer for me. Maybe it's because people who are terrified of getting hurt are more likely to hurt other people first?

　　不要相信不信任別人的人。我也不確定為什么這個是對的，但于我而言，它就像晴雨表一樣精準(zhǔn)，從沒出過錯。也許是因為害怕被傷害的人更有可能先去傷害別人吧?

　　2. If you strongly dislike a trait in someone else or are critical of something, you're probably that way yourself. Freud referred to this as "projection." People who are nervous about their own looks call other people ugly. People who are self-conscious about how much money they make criticize other people's jobs.

　　如果你特別不喜歡別人的某種特征，或者對某事很不滿，你自己可能就是那樣的。弗洛伊德稱之為“投射”。對自己相貌很敏感的人會說別人丑。太在意自己薪水的人會非議他人的工作。

　　3. The easiest way to get in a relationship is to be fine alone. Neediness repels people.

　　當(dāng)一個人別無他求時，自然能與人建立關(guān)系。一味索求只會叫人反感。

　　4. The more you try to impress someone, the less they will like you. Don't be a tryhard. People love authenticity. Which leads me to...

　　越是想給人留下好印象，別人越不喜歡你。不要太刻意，人們喜歡真誠。這讓我……

　　5. The more you admit your faults and shortcomings, the more people will like you. Being able to admit when you're wrong is a wonderfully attractive quality and gets you a lot of legitimacy. It's endearing.

　　越能坦誠自己的缺點和不足，別人越是喜歡你。勇于承認(rèn)自己的錯誤是一種很有魅力的品質(zhì)，也會讓你更受信任。這種品質(zhì)很討人喜歡。

　　6. The more you learn, the less you know. I think this is true across the board that the more you learn about something, the more your horizons broaden and you see the limits of your own understanding.

　　學(xué)得越多，知道的越少。我相信這一點放之四海而皆準(zhǔn)，你對某事了解得越多，眼界越開闊，也就越能發(fā)覺自我認(rèn)知的局限。

　　7. The more available something is, the less we want it (and the less available something is, the more we want it). We unconsciously assume that the more scarce something is, the more valuable it is. This is not the case. Such thinking will lead you to chase things you shouldn't and take what you do have for granted if you aren't careful.

　　越容易得到的東西越不想要(相對的，越不容易得到的東西越想要)。我們下意識地認(rèn)為物以稀為貴，其實不然。如果你不留心，這種想法會讓你追求不該追求的，并認(rèn)為自己所擁有的都是理所當(dāng)然。

　　8. The more choices you have, the less satisfied you are with any particular one.This is called the paradox of choice. You can read about Decision theory more.

　　選擇越多，那么你就會對自己的決定就越不滿意，不論選哪個。有興趣的話你可以去了解和決策論有關(guān)的知識。

　　9. And my personal favorite - the only constant is change.

　　還有我自己最喜歡的一條——唯一不變的就是變化本身。