奧普拉·溫弗瑞斯坦福大學(xué)畢業(yè)典禮演講:感覺、失敗及尋找幸福

Feelings, Failure and Finding Happiness

感覺、失敗及尋找幸福

Thank you, President Hennessy, and to thetrusteesand the faculty, to all of the parents andgrandparents, to you, the Stanford graduates.Thank you for letting me share this amazing day withyou.

Hennessy校長，全體教員，家長，還有斯坦福的畢業(yè)生門，非常感謝你們。感謝你們讓我和你們分享這美好的一天。

I need to begin by letting everyone in on a little secret. The secret is that Kirby Bumpus,Stanford Class of '08, is my goddaughter. So, I was thrilled when President Hennessy asked meto be your Commencement speaker, because this is the first time I've been allowed on campussince Kirby's been here.

我決定透漏一個小秘密給大家來作為這次演講的開始。這個秘密就是Kirby Bumpus，斯坦福2008年的畢業(yè)生，是我的義女。所以當(dāng)Hennessy校長讓我來做演講時，我受寵若驚，因為自從Kirby來這上學(xué)以來，這是我第一次被允許到斯坦福來。

You see, Kirby's a very smart girl. She wants people to get to know her on her own terms, shesays. Not in terms of who she knows. So, she never wants anyone who's first meeting her toknow that I know her and she knows me. So, when she first came to Stanford for new studentorientation with her mom, I hear that they arrived and everybody was so welcoming, andsomebody came up to Kirby and they said, "Ohmigod, that's Gayle King!" Because a lot ofpeople know Gayle King as my BFF [best friend forever].

正如你們知道的那樣Kirby是一個非常聰明的女孩。她說，她希望大家通過她自己的努力了解她，而不是她認(rèn)識誰。因此她從來不希望每一個第一次見到她的人知道她認(rèn)識我。當(dāng)她和她媽媽第一次來到斯坦福參加開學(xué)典禮時，我聽說每個人都十分熱情。他們說：“我的天啊，那是Gayle King”。因為很多人都知道Gayle King是我最好的朋友。

And so somebody comes up to Kirby, and they say, "Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?" And Kirby'slike, "Uh-huh. She's my mom."And so the person says, "Ohmigod, does it mean, like, you knowOprah Winfrey?"And Kirby says, "Sort of."

有些人走到Kirby面前，對Kirby說：“我的天啊，那是Gayle King嗎?”Kirby說：“嗯，她是我媽媽。”然后人們說：“我的天啊，難道說，你認(rèn)識Oprah Winfrey。”Kirby說：“有點吧。”

I said, "Sort of? You sort of know me?" Well, I have photographic proof. I have pictures which Ican e-mail to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all fours. So, I more than sort-of knowKirby Bumpus. And I'm so happy to be here, just happy that I finally, after four years, get tosee her room. There's really nowhere else I'd rather be, because I'm so proud of Kirby, whograduates today with two degrees, one in human bio and the other in psychology. Love you,Kirby Cakes! That's how well I know her. I can call her Cakes.

我說：“有一點。你有一點認(rèn)識我”。我還有照片為證。我可以把Kirby 和我騎馬時的照片e-mail給你們。因此我不僅僅只是有點認(rèn)識Kirby Bumpus。我非常高興來到這里，因為四年來我第一次來到她的寢室。我為Kirby感到自豪，因為她獲得了人類生物學(xué)和心理學(xué)的雙學(xué)位。這就是我多么的了解她。我可以叫她Cakes。

And so proud of her mother and father, who helped her get through this time, and her brother,Will. I really had nothing to do with her graduating from Stanford, but every time anybody'sasked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I would say, "I'm getting ready to go toStanford."

我為她的父母感到驕傲，她的父母給了她很大幫助，還有她的哥哥Will。我對Kirby大學(xué)四年真的沒有什么幫助。但是在過去的幾周里，每當(dāng)人們問我在做什么時，我都會說：“我正準(zhǔn)備去斯坦福”

I just love saying "Stanford." Because the truth is, I know I would have never gotten my degreeat all, 'cause I didn't go to Stanford. I went to Tennessee State University. But I never wouldhave gotten my diploma at all, because I was supposed to graduate back in 1975, but I wasshort one credit. And I figured, I'm just going to forget it, 'cause, you know, I'm not going tomarch with my class. Because by that point, I was already on television. I'd been in televisionsince I was 19 and a sophomore. Granted, I was the only television anchor person that had an11 o'clock curfew doing the 10 o'clock news.

我就是喜歡這樣說Stanford(用一種奇怪的語調(diào))。因為這是真的，我知道根本不會拿到我的學(xué)位，因為我沒有去斯坦福念書。我去了Tennessee 州立大學(xué)。但是我本來不會拿到我的畢業(yè)證，因為我本應(yīng)該在1975年畢業(yè)，但是我少了一個學(xué)分。我認(rèn)為我還是會忘了這件事。你們知道，我不會比得上我的同班同學(xué)。因為我已經(jīng)上了電視。我在19歲還是大學(xué)二年級的時候就已經(jīng)上了電視。我是唯一一個電視節(jié)目主持人，雖然有11點的宵禁，卻做著10點鐘的新聞。

Seriously, my dad was like, "Well, that news is over at 10:30. Be home by 11."

But that didn't matter to me, because I was earning a living. I was on my way. So, I thought,I'm going to let this college thing go and I only had one credit short. But, my father, from thattime on and for years after, was always on my case, because I did not graduate. He'd say, "Oprah Gail"—that's my middle name—"I don't know what you're gonna do without thatdegree." And I'd say, "But, Dad, I have my own television show."

嚴(yán)肅地說，我爸爸告訴我，“好吧，新聞10：30結(jié)束。11點之前到家。”但是這對我并不重要，因為我已經(jīng)自食其力了。我在走我自己的路。所以我想，我不能讓關(guān)于我大學(xué)的那件事就這么過去，我還少一個學(xué)分。但是我的父親從那時起卻成了問題。由于我沒有畢業(yè)，他總是說：“Oprah Gail(我的中間名字)，我不知道沒有學(xué)位你能做些什么。”然后我說：“但是，爸爸，我已經(jīng)有我自己的電視節(jié)目啦。”

And he'd say, "Well, I still don't know what you're going to do without that degree."

And I'd say, "But, Dad, now I'm a talk show host." He'd say, "I don't know how you're going toget another job without that degree."

他說：“好吧，但是我還是不知道沒有那個學(xué)位你能干什么。”我說：“但是，爸爸，現(xiàn)在我已經(jīng)是脫口秀的主持人了”。他還是說：“我不知道沒有那個學(xué)位你怎么去找其他的工作。”

So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their commencement. Bythen, I had my own show, was nationally syndicated. I'd made a movie, had been nominated foran Oscar and founded my company, Harpo. But I told them, I cannot come and give a speechunless I can earn one more credit, because my dad's still saying I'm not going to get anywherewithout that degree.

在1987年，Tennessee州立大學(xué)邀請我回去做他們的畢業(yè)典禮演講。在那時，我已經(jīng)有了自己的電視節(jié)目，并加入了國家聯(lián)合會。我制作了一部電影，并被奧斯卡提名，而且成立了我自己的公司Harpo?？晌腋嬖V他們，我不能去演講除非我得到那一個學(xué)分，因為我爸爸總是說沒了那學(xué)位我將一事無成。

So, I finished my coursework, I turned in my final paper and I got the degree.And my dad wasvery proud. And I know that, if anything happens, that one credit will be my salvation.

因此，我完成了我的課程，上交了我的畢業(yè)論文，然后拿到了學(xué)位。我的爸爸非常的驕傲。從此我知道，無論什么事發(fā)生，那一個學(xué)分是我的救世主

But I also know why my dad was insisting on that diploma, because, as B. B. King put it, "Thebeautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take that away from you." And learning isreally in the broadest sense what I want to talk about today, because your education, ofcourse, isn't ending here. In many ways, it's only just begun.

但是我知道為什么我爸爸總是堅持讓我獲得文憑，因為，正如B. B. King所說：“關(guān)于學(xué)習(xí)的美好在于別人不會把知識從你身上拿走”學(xué)習(xí)正是我今天想說的，因為你們的教育并沒有在這里結(jié)束。在很多情況下，這才是剛剛開使。

The world has so many lessons to teach you. I consider the world, this Earth, to be like aschool and our life the classrooms. And sometimes here in this Planet Earth school the lessonsoften come dressed up as detours or roadblocks. And sometimes as full-blown crises. And thesecret I've learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons, lessons from the grandestuniversity of all, that is, the universe itself.

這個世界將會教會你們很多。我認(rèn)為這個世界，這個地球，就像一個學(xué)校和我們?nèi)松慕淌摇Ｓ袝r這些課程會是彎路和障礙。有時會充滿危機。我所學(xué)的應(yīng)付這一切的秘密就是去勇于面對，正如我們面對大學(xué)課程一樣。

It's being able to walk through life eager and open to self-improvement and that which isgoing to best help you evolve, 'cause that's really why we're here, to evolve as human beings.To grow into more of ourselves, always moving to the next level of understanding, the nextlevel of compassion and growth.

我們能夠充滿激情的去生活和自我提高，這就是我們存在的意義。不斷自我提高，去追求人生的更高境界，去追求更高級別的憐憫和自我提高。

I think about one of the greatest compliments I've ever received: I interviewed with a reporterwhen I was first starting out in Chicago. And then many years later, I saw the same reporter.And she said to me, "You know what? You really haven't changed. You've just become more ofyourself."

我記得我所受到的最大的贊揚就是當(dāng)我剛剛在芝加哥開始工作時，我采訪了一個記者。很多年以后我們又見面了。她對我說：“你知道嗎?你一點也沒有變。你變得更為自我了。”

And that is really what we're all trying to do, become more of ourselves. And I believe thatthere's a lesson in almost everything that you do and every experience, and getting the lessonis how you move forward. It's how you enrich your spirit. And, trust me, I know that innerwisdom is more precious than wealth. The more you spend it, the more you gain.

這就是我們一直努力在做的，去做我們自己。我堅信你們會從每一件做過的事上學(xué)到經(jīng)驗，這樣你們就會取得進(jìn)步。這樣你們豐富了心靈。相信我，內(nèi)在的智慧比外在的財富更加珍貴。你越是使用它，你就得到更多。

So, today, I just want to share a few lessons—meaning three—that I've learned in my journeyso far. And aren't you glad? Don't you hate it when somebody says, "I'm going to share a few,"and it's 10 lessons later? And, you're like, "Listen, this is my graduation. This is not about you."So, it's only going to be three.

今天我想和大家分享我人生的三個經(jīng)驗。你們難道不覺得高興嗎?你們是否會反感，當(dāng)有人對你說：“我想分享一些”但事實上卻是10個經(jīng)驗。你們肯定在想：“聽著，這是我的畢業(yè)典禮，不是你的”。因此這里只有三個經(jīng)驗我想和大家分享。

The three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, withfailure and with finding happiness.

這三個經(jīng)驗對我的人生產(chǎn)生了很大影響，它們是關(guān)于感情，失敗和追求幸福。

A year after I left college, I was given the opportunity to co-anchor the 6 o'clock news inBaltimore, because the whole goal in the media at the time I was coming up was you try tomove to larger markets. And Baltimore was a much larger market than Nashville. So, getting the6 o'clock news co-anchor job at 22 was such a big deal. It felt like the biggest deal in the worldat the time.

當(dāng)我離開大學(xué)一年后，在Baltimore我得到了一個共同主持6點新聞的機會。在那時媒體界的最大目標(biāo)就是獲得更大的市場，而Baltimore是一個比Nashville大得多的市場，因此在22歲時得到這個機會對我來說非常重要。它那時對我來說它仿佛是世界上最重要的事。

And I was so proud, because I was finally going to have my chance to be like Barbara Walters,which is who I had been trying to emulate since the start of my TV career. So, I was 22 yearsold, making $22,000 a year. And it's where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern atthe same TV station. And once we became friends, we'd say, "Ohmigod, I can't believe it! You'remaking $22,000 and you're only 22. Imagine when you're 40 and you're making $40,000!"

我非常自豪，因為我終于有機會去效法barbara Walters。而她正是我從業(yè)以來一直效法的對象。那時我22歲，每年掙22,000美元。我遇到了在電視臺做實習(xí)生的Gayle，我們立刻成了好朋友。我們說：“我的天啊，真難以置信。你在22歲時掙每年能掙22,000美元。想象一下吧，當(dāng)你40歲時你每年就會掙40,000美元”

When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn't happen.

當(dāng)我真的40歲時，我很高興這并沒有成真。

So, here I am, 22, making $22,000 a year and, yet, it didn't feel right. It didn't feel right. Thefirst sign, as President Hennessy was saying, was when they tried to change my name. Thenews director said to me at the time, "Nobody's going to remember Oprah. So, we want tochange your name. We've come up with a name we think that people will remember and peoplewill like. It's a friendly name: Suzie."

這就是我，22歲時每年掙22,000美元，然而，這種感覺并不好。首先，正如Hennessy校長所說，當(dāng)他們試圖讓我改名字。那時導(dǎo)演對我說：“沒人會記住Oprah這個名字。因此我們想讓你改名字。我們已經(jīng)為你想了一個大家都會記住和喜歡的名字——Suzie。”

Hi, Suzie. Very friendly. You can't be angry with Suzie. Remember Suzie. But my name wasn'tSuzie. And, you know, I'd grown up not really loving my name, because when you're looking foryour little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you're never going to findOprah.

Suzie，一個很友善的名字。你不會厭惡Suzie。記住Suzie吧。但是我的名字不是Suzie。你們可以看到，自小我就不怎么喜歡我的名字。因為當(dāng)你在午餐箱和牌號尋找你的名字時，你永遠(yuǎn)也不會找Oprah。

So, I grew up not loving the name, but once I was asked to change it, I thought, well, it is myname and do I look like a Suzie to you? So, I thought, no, it doesn't feel right. I'm not going tochange my name. And if people remember it or not, that's OK.

我從小就不怎么喜歡我的名字，但是當(dāng)我被告知去改名字時，我想，好吧，那時我的名字，但是Suzie真的適合我嗎?因此我想，它并不適合我。我不會改我的名字。我也不介意人們是否記得住我的名字，這沒什么大不了的。

And then they said they didn't like the way I looked. This was in 1976, when your boss couldcall you in and say, "I don't like the way you look." Now that would be called a lawsuit, but backthen they could just say, "I don't like the way you look." Which, in case some of you in theback, if you can't tell, is nothing like Barbara Walters. So, they sent me to a salon where theygave me a perm, and after a few days all my hair fell out and I had to shave my head. Andthen they really didn't like the way I looked.Because now I am black and bald and sitting on TV.Not a pretty picture.

然后他們還對我說他們不喜歡我的長相。那是在1976年，你的老板可以那么說。但是如果是現(xiàn)在的話，那就是一件很嚴(yán)重的事了?？墒悄菚r他們還是說：“我不喜歡你的造型。”我根本不像Barbara Walters。于是他們把我送到沙龍，給我燙了發(fā)?？墒菐滋旌笪业念^發(fā)一團(tuán)糟。我不得不剃光我的頭發(fā)。此時他們更不喜歡我的造型了。因為作為一個光頭黑人坐在攝影機前，我肯定不漂亮的。

But even worse than being bald, I really hated, hated, hated being sent to report on otherpeople's tragedies as a part of my daily duty, knowing that I was just expected to observe,when everything in my instinct told me that I should be doing something, I should be lending ahand.

比光頭更令我討厭的是我不得不把播報別人遭受的痛苦作為我的日常工作。我深知我期待去觀察，我的內(nèi)心告訴我，我應(yīng)該做些什么了。我需要為他人提供幫助。

So, as President Hennessy said, I'd cover a fire and then I'd go back and I'd try to give thevictims blankets. And I wouldn't be able to sleep at night because of all the things I wascovering during the day.

正如Hennessy校長所說的那樣，我播報了一起火災(zāi)，然后應(yīng)當(dāng)去給受害者拿毯子。由于白天播報的那些新聞導(dǎo)致我晚上難以入睡。

And, meanwhile, I was trying to sit gracefully like Barbara and make myself talk like Barbara.And I thought, well, I could make a pretty goofy Barbara. And if I could figure out how to bemyself, I could be a pretty good Oprah. I was trying to sound elegant like Barbara. Andsometimes I didn't read my copy, because something inside me said, this should bespontaneous. So, I wanted to get the news as I was giving it to the people. So, sometimes, Iwouldn't read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on I-40. Oh, my goodness.

與此同時我盡量表現(xiàn)的優(yōu)雅一些，使我更像Barbara。我認(rèn)為我可能會成為一個傻傻的Barbara。如果我做回我自己，我就會成為一個很棒的Oprah。我努力像Barbara那樣優(yōu)雅。有時我并不讀我的稿件，因為我的內(nèi)心告訴我這是不自主的。所以我想為大家播報一些我想要的新聞。有時，我不會播報像6個人在連環(huán)車禍中受傷這類的新聞。哦，我的天啊。

And sometimes I wouldn't read the copy—because I wanted to be spontaneous—and I'd comeacross a list of words I didn't know and I'd mispronounce. And one day I was reading copy andI called Canada "ca nada." And I decided, this Barbara thing's not going too well. I should trybeing myself.

有時出于內(nèi)心的本能，我不會去播報一些新聞。我還會遇到一些不認(rèn)識的和念錯的詞。一天當(dāng)我播新聞時，我把加拿大讀錯了。我想這樣下去學(xué)Barbara可不大好。我應(yīng)該做回我自己。

But at the same time, my dad was saying, "Oprah Gail, this is an opportunity of a lifetime. Youbetter keep that job." And my boss was saying, "This is the nightly news. You're an anchor,not a social worker. Just do your job."

但那是我爸爸卻對我說：“這是你一生的機會。你最好繼續(xù)那份工作。”我的老板也說：“這是晚間新聞。你是播報員，不是福利工作者。還是做你的本職工作吧。”

So, I was juggling these messages of expectation and obligation and feeling really miserablewith myself. I'd go home at night and fill up my journals, 'cause I've kept a journal since I was15—so I now have volumes of journals. So, I'd go home at night and fill up my journals abouthow miserable I was and frustrated. Then I'd eat my anxiety. That's where I learned thathabit.

我歪曲了這些期待和義務(wù)，并感覺很糟。晚上回到家后我會記日記。自從15歲時我就開始記日記了，于是現(xiàn)在我已經(jīng)有了好幾卷日記。我晚上回到家后，我會記錄下我是多么的不幸和沮喪。然后我消除了焦慮。這就是我如何養(yǎng)成了那個習(xí)慣。

And after eight months, I lost that job. They said I was too emotional. I was too much. Butsince they didn't want to pay out the contract, they put me on a talk show in Baltimore. Andthe moment I sat down on that show, the moment I did, I felt like I'd come home. I realizedthat TV could be more than just a playground, but a platform for service, for helping otherpeople lift their lives. And the moment I sat down, doing that talk show, it felt like breathing. Itfelt right. And that's where everything that followed for me began.

8個月后我失去了那份工作。他們說我太情緒化了。但因為他們不想違背合約，他們就讓我去Baltimore主持一檔脫口秀節(jié)目。從我開始主持那檔節(jié)目的一刻開始，我感覺好像回到了家一樣。我意識到電視不應(yīng)該僅僅是一個娛樂場，更應(yīng)該是一個以服務(wù)為目的的平臺，以幫助他人更好的生活。當(dāng)我開始主持節(jié)目的時間侯，就像呼吸一樣。感覺好極啦。這就是我工作的真正開始。

And I got that lesson. When you're doing the work you're meant to do, it feels right and everyday is a bonus, regardless of what you're getting paid.

這就是我學(xué)到的經(jīng)驗。當(dāng)你做的是一份你喜歡的工作時，那感覺棒極了。無論你能掙到多少錢，你都會有很大收獲。

It's true. And how do you know when you're doing something right? How do you know that? Itfeels so. What I know now is that feelings are really your GPS system for life. When you'resupposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidancesystem lets you know. The trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checkingyour gut instead. Every right decision I've made—every right decision I've ever made—hascome from my gut. And every wrong decision I've ever made was a result of me not listeningto the greater voice of myself.

這是真的。但是你怎么知道你所做的是對的呢?你怎么知道呢?我所知道的就是你的內(nèi)心是你人生的導(dǎo)航系統(tǒng)。當(dāng)你應(yīng)該或者不應(yīng)該改做某事時，你的內(nèi)心會告訴你怎樣去做。關(guān)鍵是去面對你自己，面對你自己的內(nèi)心。我所做過的所有正確選擇都是源自我內(nèi)心的。我所做過的所有錯誤選擇都是因為沒有聽取來自我內(nèi)心的聲音。

If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. That's the lesson. And that lesson alone will save you, myfriends, a lot of grief. Even doubt means don't. This is what I've learned. There are many timeswhen you don't know what to do. When you don't know what to do, get still, get very still, untilyou do know what to do.

如果感覺不好，就不要去做。這就是我的經(jīng)驗。我的朋友，這個經(jīng)驗會幫你避免很多痛苦。甚至懷疑都意味著不要去做。這就是我所學(xué)到的。有很多次當(dāng)你不知道如何去做時，什么也不要做，直到你知道怎么做為止。

And when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will yourpersonal life improve, but you will gain a competitive edge in the working world as well.Because, as Daniel Pink writes in his best-seller, A Whole New Mind, we're entering a whole newage. And he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going tocome from our hearts—right brain—as well as our heads. It's no longer just the logical, linear,rules-based thinking that matters, he says. It's also empathy and joyfulness and purpose,inner traits that have transcendent worth.

當(dāng)你什么也不要做時，讓你的內(nèi)心作為驅(qū)動力。不僅僅你的個人生活會提高，你在工作中也會獲得競爭力。正如Daniel Pink在他的暢銷書A Whole New Mind中所說的那樣，我們進(jìn)入了一個新時代，一個他稱之為概念時代的時代。人們的內(nèi)心使人與人之間產(chǎn)生隔閡。他說，重要的不僅僅是邏輯上的，線性的，直尺式的思維方式。移情，快樂，目標(biāo)和內(nèi)部特質(zhì)同樣也有卓越的價值。

These qualities bloom when we're doing what we love, when we're involving the wholeness ofourselves in our work, both our expertise and our emotion.

當(dāng)我們做自己喜歡的事時，當(dāng)我們?nèi)硇牡耐度氲焦ぷ髦袝r，這些特質(zhì)就會煥發(fā)生機。

So, I say to you, forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your powerto your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success willcome to you.

因此我對你說，忘掉那些快車道吧。如果你真的像飛翔，就把你的力量投入到你的激情當(dāng)中。尊重你內(nèi)心的召喚。每一個人都會有的。相信你的心靈，你會成功的。

So, how do I define success? Let me tell you, money's pretty nice. I'm not going to stand uphere and tell you that it's not about money, 'cause money is very nice. I like money. It's goodfor buying things.

那么我是如何定義成功的呢?讓我告訴你，錢很美好。我不會告訴你們成功與錢無關(guān)，因為錢是好東東。我喜歡錢。它能買東西。

But having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful person. What youwant is money and meaning. You want your work to be meaningful. Because meaning is whatbrings the real richness to your life. What you really want is to be surrounded by people youtrust and treasure and by people who cherish you. That's when you're really rich.So, lessonone, follow your feelings. If it feels right, move forward. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

但是擁有很多錢并不能使你自然而然的成為一個成功者。你想要的是錢和意義。你想你的工作更有意義。因為有意義使你的生活更加充實。你所希望得到的是被信任你珍視你的人包圍。這才是你真正富有的時候。因此，第一個經(jīng)驗，跟隨你的心靈。如果感覺對了，就繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。如果感覺不對，就不要做了。

Now I want to talk a little bit about failings, because nobody's journey is seamless or smooth.We all stumble. We all have setbacks. If things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it'sjust life's way of saying time to change course. So, ask every failure—this is what I do withevery failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soonas you get the lesson, you get to move on. If you really get the lesson, you pass and you don'thave to repeat the class. If you don't get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you some remedial work.

現(xiàn)在我想談?wù)勈?。沒有人他的一生是一帆風(fēng)順的。我們都會遇到困難，受到挫折。如果事情出錯了，你進(jìn)入了死胡同，這正是生活在告訴你是時候改變了。所以，每當(dāng)遇到困難和危機時，我都會問它教會了我什么?只要你吸取了教訓(xùn)，你就會繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。如果你真正吸取了教訓(xùn)，你就會順利通過考驗，不用再取經(jīng)受失敗了。如果你沒有吸取教訓(xùn)，它會以另外一種形式給出現(xiàn)在你面前并給你一些補救。

And what I've found is that difficulties come when you don't pay attention to life's whisper,because life always whispers to you first. And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you'llget a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But, if you ask the right question—not why is thishappening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get thelesson you need.

我注意到當(dāng)你沒有仔細(xì)對待生活的細(xì)節(jié)時，困難就會出現(xiàn)。因為生活總是提前低聲的告戒你。如果你忽視了這個低聲的告誡，過不了多久你就會得到一個驚聲尖叫，無論你怎樣反抗。但是如果你不去想為什困難會發(fā)生，而是去反思困難會教給我什么時，你就會學(xué)到你需要的東西。

My friend Eckhart Tolle, who's written this wonderful book called A New Earth that's all aboutletting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: Hesays, don't react against a bad situation; merge with that situation instead. And the solutionwill arise from the challenge. Because surrendering yourself doesn't mean giving up; it meansacting with responsibility.

我的朋友Eckhart Tolle。他寫了一本非常棒的書，名叫A New Earth。這本書就是關(guān)于讓你的意識激勵你去做事。他說，不要去反抗困境，相反，要融入到其中。事情會變的越來越好的。因為暫時的屈服并不意味著放棄，它意味著一種責(zé)任感。

Many of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in Africa. And Ifounded the school, where I'm trying to give South African girls a shot at a future like yours—Stanford. And I spent five years making sure that school would be as beautiful as thestudents. I wanted every girl to feel her worth reflected in her surroundings. So, I checkedevery blueprint, I picked every pillow. I was looking at the grout in between the bricks. I knewevery thread count of the sheets. I chose every girl from the villages, from nine provinces. Andyet, last fall, I was faced with a crisis I had never anticipated. I was told that one of the dormmatrons was suspected of sexual abuse.

你們當(dāng)中很多人都知道，正如Hennessy校長所說，我在非洲創(chuàng)辦了一個學(xué)校。我希望給南非的女孩們一個像你們一樣的未來。我花了5年時間來確保學(xué)校會像學(xué)生們一樣好。我想讓每一個女孩感覺到自己的價值受到重視。所以我檢查了每一個設(shè)計圖，親自挑選每個枕頭，甚至檢查磚塊間的水泥。我知道每一個細(xì)節(jié)。每一學(xué)生都是我從9個省的村落里親自選出來的。然而，去年的秋天我卻遇到了一個我從未預(yù)料的危機。我被告知有一名宿舍管理員涉嫌性虐待。

That was, as you can imagine, devastating news. First, I cried—actually, I sobbed—for abouthalf an hour. And then I said, let's get to it; that's all you get, a half an hour. You need to focuson the now, what you need to do now. So, I contacted a child trauma specialist. I put togethera team of investigators. I made sure the girls had counseling and support. And Gayle and I goton a plane and flew to South Africa.

你們可以想象得到這是多么令人沮喪的消息啊。首先，我哭了，啜泣了大約半個小時。然后我說，我們得面對它。一個半小時，這就是你全部所能得到的。你需要把注意力集中到現(xiàn)在，現(xiàn)在你因該做些什么。所以我聯(lián)系了一位兒科創(chuàng)傷專家。我派了一隊調(diào)查人員。我確定女孩們得到了安慰和支持。Gayle和我坐上飛機飛向南非。

And the whole time I kept asking that question: What is this here to teach me? And, as difficultas that experience has been, I got a lot of lessons. I understand now the mistakes I made,because I had been paying attention to all of the wrong things. I'd built that school from theoutside in, when what really mattered was the inside out.So, it's a lesson that applies to all ofour lives as a whole. What matters most is what's inside. What matters most is the sense ofintegrity, of quality and beauty. I got that lesson. And what I know is that the girls came awaywith something, too. They have emerged from this more resilient and knowing that their voiceshave power.

整個過程中我都在問自己：“這件事教會了我什么?”雖然這個經(jīng)歷十分困難，但是我學(xué)到了很多。我意識到自己所犯的錯誤，因為我一直以來都把注意力集中在錯事上。我從外向內(nèi)建造了那所學(xué)校，然而正真對我有意義的是從內(nèi)向外的去建造它。最重要的是我對正直，品質(zhì)和美好的理解。我學(xué)到了那個教訓(xùn)。我也明白女孩們也學(xué)到了一些事。她們從中恢復(fù)了過來并意識到她們的聲音是有影響力的。

And their resilience and spirit have given me more than I could ever give to them, which leadsme to my final lesson—the one about finding happiness—which we could talk about all day, but Iknow you have other wacky things to do.

她們的恢復(fù)力和精神給了我很多東西，以至于比我給她們的還多。接下來是我最后的經(jīng)驗—關(guān)于尋找幸福，我可以談?wù)撘徽?，但是我有其他古怪的事要做?/p>

Not a small topic this is, finding happiness. But in some ways I think it's the simplest of all.Gwendolyn Brooks wrote a poem for her children. It's called "Speech to the Young : Speech tothe Progress-Toward." And she says at the end, "Live not for battles won. / Live not for the-end-of-the-song. / Live in the along." She's saying, like Eckhart Tolle, that you have to live forthe present. You have to be in the moment. Whatever has happened to you in your past hasno power over this present moment, because life is now.

追求幸福并不是一個小話題。但在某種程度上來說它又是最簡單的話題。Gwendolyn Brooks為她的孩子寫了一首詩，詩名是Speech to the Young : Speech to the Progress-Toward.在詩的最后她說到，不要為了戰(zhàn)勝而生活，不要為了歌曲的結(jié)尾而生活，要享受生活。她說，你應(yīng)當(dāng)為了現(xiàn)在而生活，無論過去發(fā)生了什么都不應(yīng)該影響到現(xiàn)在，因為生活就是過好現(xiàn)在。

But I think she's also saying, be a part of something. Don't live for yourself alone. This is what Iknow for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand forsomething larger than yourself. Because life is a reciprocal exchange. To move forward youhave to give back. And to me, that is the greatest lesson of life. To be happy, you have to givesomething back.

我想她還說過，去參與一些事。不要僅僅為了自己而生活。我可以非?？隙ǖ氖菫榱俗非笳嬲目鞓罚惚仨殲榱艘恍└幸饬x的事而生活。生活是互動的。為了前進(jìn)，你必須后退。對于我而言，這是人生中最重要的經(jīng)驗。想要獲得快樂你必須付出。

I know you know that, because that's a lesson that's woven into the very fabric of thisuniversity. It's a lesson that Jane and Leland Stanford got and one they've bequeathed to you.Because all of you know the story of how this great school came to be, how the Stanfords losttheir only child to typhoid at the age of 15. They had every right and they had every reason toturn their backs against the world at that time, but instead, they channeled their grief and theirpain into an act of grace. Within a year of their son's death, they had made the founding grantfor this great school, pledging to do for other people's children what they were not able to dofor their own boy.

我知道你們已經(jīng)很了解了，因為這個經(jīng)驗已經(jīng)深深的融入了斯坦福。這個經(jīng)驗是Jane and Leland傳承給你們的。因為你們所有的人都知道這座偉大的大學(xué)是如何建成的。斯坦福夫婦的獨子在15歲時得了傷寒離開了他們。他們有權(quán)利和理由去恨這個世界，但是他們卻用優(yōu)雅的行動疏導(dǎo)了心中的悲傷。在他們兒子死后不到一年內(nèi)，他們已經(jīng)這所偉大的大學(xué)籌集了建設(shè)經(jīng)費，并發(fā)誓要為別人的孩子做一些他們自己的孩子不能得到事。

The lesson here is clear, and that is, if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease theirhurt. If you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get yourselfout of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process, you get to become amember of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of compassion and thefraternity of service.

這個經(jīng)驗非常明顯，那就是，如果你受了傷，你需要幫助他人減輕傷痛。如果你感到痛苦，幫助他人減輕痛苦。如果你的生活一團(tuán)糟，去幫助其他處在困難中的人擺脫困境。這樣一來，你就變成了婦女聯(lián)誼會或是互助會中最偉大的一個員。

The Stanfords had suffered the worst thing any mom and dad can ever endure, yet theyunderstood that helping others is the way we help ourselves. And this wisdom is increasinglysupported by scientific and sociological research. It's no longer just woo-woo soft-skills talk.There's actually a helper's high, a spiritual surge you gain from serving others. So, if you wantto feel good, you have to go out and do some good.

斯坦福夫婦遭受了世上父母所能遭受的最大痛苦，然而他們懂得通過幫助他人來幫助自己。這種智慧漸漸的被科學(xué)和社會學(xué)研究所證實。這不僅僅是某種軟技能的談話。這事實上是在幫助者的高度，一種從幫助別人而獲得的精神大爆發(fā)。所以如果你想快樂，去幫助別人吧。

But when you do good, I hope you strive for more than just the good feeling that serviceprovides, because I know this for sure, that doing good actually makes you better. So,whatever field you choose, if you operate from the paradigm of service, I know your life willhave more value and you will be happy.

但是當(dāng)你做好事時，我希望你不僅僅是為了獲得的快樂，因為我深知做好事可以讓你變得更棒。所以無論你怎樣選擇，若你能以服務(wù)他人為榜樣，我相信你的生活會更有價值，你也會更快樂。

I was always happy doing my talk show, but that happiness reached a depth of fulfillment, ofjoy, that I really can't describe to you or measure when I stopped just being on TV andlooking at TV as a job and decided to use television, to use it and not have it use me, to use itas a platform to serve my viewers. That alone changed the trajectory of my success.

我也很高興做我的脫口秀節(jié)目，那種快樂是一種更深層次的成就感，我很難去表達(dá)和衡量。我決定以電視作為我的職業(yè)，我要用電視這個平臺來為我的觀眾服務(wù)，而不是讓電視利用我。這改變了我成功的軌跡。

So, I know this—that whether you're an actor, you offer your talent in the way that mostinspires art. If you're an anatomist, you look at your gift as knowledge and service to healing.Whether you've been called, as so many of you here today getting doctorates and otherdegrees, to the professions of business, law, engineering, humanities, science, medicine, if youchoose to offer your skills and talent in service, when you choose the paradigm of service,looking at life through that paradigm, it turns everything you do from a job into a gift. And Iknow you haven't spent all this time at Stanford just to go out and get a job.

我知道無論你是否是一名演員，你都應(yīng)該把你的才智貢獻(xiàn)給能夠鼓舞他人的事業(yè)。如果你是一名剖析家，你應(yīng)當(dāng)把你們的智慧投入到醫(yī)治他人當(dāng)中。無論你是否被召喚，你們中的很多人在經(jīng)濟(jì)，法律，人權(quán)，科學(xué)，醫(yī)藥方面都獲得了諸如博士一類的學(xué)位，如果你們決定把你們的技能和智慧奉獻(xiàn)給服務(wù)他人們，選擇把服務(wù)他人作為榜樣，你們的工作就會變成一種天賦。我知道你們在斯坦福所在的一切就是為了出去找一份工作。

You've been enriched in countless ways. There's no better way to make your mark on the worldand to share that abundance with others. My constant prayer for myself is to be used inservice for the greater good.

你們在很多方面都得到了提高。沒有其它更好的方式能夠分享你的豐富的才智了。我永恒的祈禱就是讓自己能夠為他人提供更好的服務(wù)

So, let me end with one of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King. Dr. King said, "Noteverybody can be famous." And I don't know, but everybody today seems to want to befamous.

就讓我引用馬丁路德金的話來作為結(jié)束語吧。他說：“不是所有人都會出名。”我不知道，但似乎今天所有人都想出名。

But fame is a trip. People follow you to the bathroom, listen to you pee. It's just—try to peequietly. It doesn't matter, they come out and say, "Ohmigod, it's you. You peed."

但是成名也是一種代價。有些人會尾隨你到衛(wèi)生間，聽你尿尿。你會盡量尿的輕一些。這沒什么大不了的。他們會對你說：“我的天啊，是你!你尿尿啦。”

That's the fame trip, so I don't know if you want that.

這就是成名的代價，我不知道你們是否喜歡。

So, Dr. King said, "Not everybody can be famous. But everybody can be great, becausegreatness is determined by service." Those of you who are history scholars may know the restof that passage. He said, "You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have tomake your subject and verb agree to serve. You don't have to know about Plato or Aristotle toserve. You don't have to know Einstein's theory of relativity to serve. You don't have to knowthe second theory of thermodynamics in physics to serve. You only need a heart full of graceand a soul generated by love."

所以，正如馬丁路德金所說，“不是所有人都會成名。但每個人都可以變的偉大，因為偉大是通過為他人服務(wù)而界定的。” 你們當(dāng)中學(xué)歷史的人可能會知道他接下來的話，“為別人提供服務(wù)，并不一定要有大學(xué)學(xué)歷，并不一定要主謂一致，并不一定要認(rèn)識柏拉圖和亞里士多德，并不一定要會愛因斯坦的相對論，并不一定要了解熱力學(xué)第二定律。你所需要的是一顆優(yōu)雅的心靈和充滿愛的靈魂。”

In a few moments, you'll all be officially Stanford's '08.

不久你們就會正式成為斯坦福大學(xué)2008年的畢業(yè)生了。

You have the heart and the smarts to go with it. And it's up to you to decide, really, where willyou now use those gifts? You've got the diploma, so go out and get the lessons, 'cause I knowgreat things are sure to come.

你們有聰明才智。你們將會決定如何利用它。說真的，你們將會如何利用它呢?你們拿到了學(xué)位。走向社會吧，我堅信偉大的事將會發(fā)生的。

You know, I've always believed that everything is better when you share it, so before I go, Iwanted to share a graduation gift with you. Underneath your seats you'll find two of my favoritebooks. Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth is my current book club selection. Our New Earth webcasthas been downloaded 30 million times with that book. And Daniel Pink's A Whole New Mind:Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future has reassured me I'm in the right direction.

你們知道，我一直堅信，如果你和他人分享，那么事情就會變得更好。所以在我離開之前，我想和大家分享一下畢業(yè)禮物。在你們的座位底下，你們會發(fā)現(xiàn)兩本我最喜歡的書。Eckhart Tolle的A New Earth流行書俱樂部的精選品。我們的New Earth廣播已經(jīng)被下載3億次。Daniel Pink的A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future 使我確定我在人生的正軌上。

I really wanted to give you cars but I just couldn't pull that off! Congratulations, '08!

我真的想送大家轎車，只是開不過來!祝賀大家!08年的畢業(yè)生們!