生活英語聽力文章：建立至關(guān)重要的人際關(guān)系

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Building Relationships That Last

建立持久的人際關(guān)系。

While the Internet now allows us to connect in new ways and stay connected regardless of where we are, the fundamental skills of building relationships remain unchanged.

雖然現(xiàn)在網(wǎng)絡(luò)提供了忽略距離的保持聯(lián)系的新方式，但是建立人際關(guān)系的基本技能并未改變。

Today’s lesson is an important reminder for all of us that the key to any long-term relationship is making sure that you give at least as much as you get.

今天的課程對我們所有人說都是一個重要的提示，那就是保持長久人際關(guān)系的關(guān)鍵是確保你在人際關(guān)系中付出的至少和收獲的一樣多。

The value of relationships

人際關(guān)系的價值。

One of the most basic needs of humans is to have meaningful relationships with other people. Relationships connect us to each other in every aspect of our lives.

人類最基本的需求之一就是和他人建立有意義的人際關(guān)系。在生活的每一個方面，人際關(guān)系讓我們和他人連在了一起。

One of the greatest regrets many individuals express at the end of their lives is the lack of time they spent with their spouse, children, and special people. It’s time given to our loved ones and friends that fulfills us and brings meaning to our lives.

很多人在他們生命即將走完時最后悔的一件事是他們陪伴愛人、孩子、其他特別的人的時間太少?，F(xiàn)在是該為我們的愛人和給我們的生活帶來意義和滿足的朋友付出的時候了。

There are other benefits as well. Wholesome, long-term relationships bring happiness and health to our lives. Studies show that people with enriching relationships really do have more happiness and they experience less stress.

還有其他的好處呢。健康的長久的人際關(guān)系能給我們的生活帶來幸福和健康。研究表明具有豐富關(guān)系的人確實有更多的幸福感，有更少的壓力。

Long-term relationships require deposits

長久的人際關(guān)系需要存款。

Enduring relationships are those that may last 5, 10, 15, or more years. Clearly, not every relationship falls into this category, but if you want to build a long-term relationship—one that feeds and sustains you in the different areas of your life—you will need to be deliberate about the time and attention you give.

長久的人際關(guān)系指至少維系了5年，10年，15年的關(guān)系。并不是每段人際關(guān)系都會這么久，但如果你想建立一段長久的人際關(guān)系---一段能在生活的不同方面都滿足和支撐你的關(guān)系--你需要慎重考慮你所能付出的時間和精力。

For any relationship to last over a long period of time, it must be the kind where you offer value and meet the needs of the other person. I sometimes refer to this as making deposits into the relationship.

對于任一個持續(xù)很久的人際關(guān)系，他一定屬于這種在哪個地方你有價值并能迎合他人的需求。有時我更喜歡把這當(dāng)成是對人際關(guān)系的存款。

I like the way Anthony Robbins explains this concept.

我喜歡Anthony Robbins解釋這個概念的方式。

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”

人際關(guān)系里最大的挑戰(zhàn)來自于人們都想從中獲取東西。他們努力去尋找能讓他們感覺舒服的人。現(xiàn)實中，人際關(guān)系持久的唯一方式是你把人際關(guān)系當(dāng)做一種給予的渠道，而不是從中得到東西。

You can make deposits to any relationship by starting to do the little things that show your interest and that you truly care. Here are just a few of the 101 things you can do:

你可以從你感興趣和你真正關(guān)心的小事上開始對你的任一個人際關(guān)系進(jìn)行投資。以下僅僅是101個你可以做的事情中的一部分。

Send an email just to say hi without asking for anything.

Call to see how a son or daughter performed in a recent activity.

Send a card or email on a holiday or birthday to tell them you are thinking about them.

Express appreciation through a thank-you note or phone call for something done for you.

Help them in times of need.

Encourage them when starting new things.

Compliment them on the things they do well.

Be a support during times of struggle and grief.

I try my best to make regular deposits into all my relationships. From listening to offering a helping hand when needed, I am intentional about putting more into the relationships I value than I ever plan to take out. Not only does this give me satisfaction from knowing that this is the right thing to do, it feels good and draws me closer them.

發(fā)封郵件不為任何事只為打聲招呼。打電話看看最近一次活動中兒子或女兒的表現(xiàn)。在節(jié)假日或生日時寄張賀卡或發(fā)封郵件告訴他們你很想念他們。通過感謝短信或電話向那些為你做了事情的人表達(dá)感謝。在他們需要時幫助他們，當(dāng)他們開始新事情時鼓勵他們，當(dāng)他們在某些事情上做的很好時贊揚(yáng)他們，在他們掙扎和悲傷時支持他們。我一直盡力對我所有的人際關(guān)系進(jìn)行定期的投資。在他們需要的時候從傾聽到提供幫助，我一直有意的去投入更多。這樣做不僅讓我感到滿足，因為我做了正確的事情，而且我很舒服并且讓我們靠的更近。

How to nurture your relationships

怎么培養(yǎng)你的人際關(guān)系?

The best way to nurture your relationships is to contribute to each of them according to their needs and expectations. Take a few moments to ask yourself these questions:

培養(yǎng)人際關(guān)系最好的方式就是根據(jù)他們的需要和期望為他們中的每一位做貢獻(xiàn)?；c時間問問自己下面這些問題。

What are the specific needs and expectations of my employer, customer, or client?

What are the needs and desires of my spouse or significant other?

What do my friends need in their relationships with me?

To help you put this lesson into perspective, make a note of the five people closest to you. These should be people with whom you have or desire to have a lasting relationship. Include on your list at least one family member, one friend, and at least one person you work for or with whom you do business.

我老板，顧客或者客戶的具體需求和期望是什么呢?我愛人或其他重要的人的需求和愿望是什么?我的朋友在這段人際關(guān)系里需要什么?為了把這節(jié)課更透視化，現(xiàn)在記錄5個和你親近的人。這些人應(yīng)該是和你有持久關(guān)系或你希望有持續(xù)關(guān)系的人。你列舉的這里面至少有一個家庭成員，一個朋友，至少有一個你的老板或商業(yè)合作伙伴。

Next, ask yourself, What does ________ (someone’s name) need from a relationship with me and what can I do to provide it?

然后問自己，這些人需要從這段關(guān)系中得到什么以及你能為他們做些什么?

Remember that what you decide to deposit into each relationship should depend on that person’s specific needs.

請牢記你決定在任一段人際關(guān)系中投資什么應(yīng)該依賴于這些人具體的需求。

When you start asking what you can do to improve your relationships with others—rather than asking what they can do for you—your relationships will bring you joy and satisfaction and brighten the lives of those you care about.

當(dāng)你開始詢問你做些什么能提高你的人際關(guān)系而不是詢問他們能為你做些什么時，你的人際關(guān)系將給你帶來開心和滿足并且點亮你關(guān)心的人的生活。