英語(yǔ)美文:八種浪費(fèi)生命的方式

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One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin – to just be r 0

One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin – to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Too often we needlessly distract ourselves with anything and everything: food, booze, shopping, television, tabloid news, online social networks, video games, cell phones, iPods, etc. – basically anything to keep us from being fully present in the current moment.

We use compulsive work, compulsive exercise, compulsive love affairs, and the like, to escape from ourselves and the realities of living. In fact, many of us will go to great lengths to avoid the feeling of being alone in an undistracted environment. So we succumb to hanging-out with just about anybody to avoid the feeling of solitude. For being alone means dealing with our true feelings: fear, anxiety, happiness, anger, joy, resentment, disappointment, anticipation, sadness, excitement, despair, and so on and so forth.

And it doesn’t really matter if our feelings are positive or negative – they are overwhelming and exhausting, and so we prefer to numb ourselves to them. The bottom line is that every one of us is an addict, and what we are addicted to is avoiding ourselves. Acknowledging this addiction is the first step to healing it. So begin today by just noticing with curiosity, and without judgment, all of the ways in which you avoid being in your own skin, right here, right now, in this present moment we call life.

Here are eight reasons so many of us miss out on life as it’s happening.

1. The fear of missing out. – If you feel anxious because you constantly feel like you’re missing out on something happening somewhere else, you’re not alone. We all feel this way sometimes. But let me assure you, you could run around trying to do everything, and travel around the world, and always stay connected, and work and party all night long without sleep, but you could never do it all. You will always be missing something. So let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are, at this moment. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive right now. This moment, and who you are, is absolutely perfect. Take a deep breath, smile, and notice how lovely it is. Read The Power of Now.

2. Avoiding pain and defeat. – Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be OK – you just need to learn a lesson or two first. Don’t run from the realities of the present moment. The pain and defeat contained within is necessary to your long-term growth. Remember, there is a difference between encountering defeats and being defeated. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know, so you can move on to the next step.

3. Holding on to what’s no longer there. – Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting past memories, and letting them steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let the past, go. You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere.

4. Retelling a self-defeating story. – If we continue to repeat a story in our head, we eventually believe that story and embrace it – whether it empowers us or not. So the question is: Does your story empower you? Don’t place your mistakes on your mind, their weight may crush your current potential. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view the horizon. Remember, all things are difficult before they are easy. What matters the most is what you start doing now. Read Awaken the Giant Within.

5. Attempting to fit in by becoming someone else. – The hardest battle you’re ever going to fight is the battle to be you, just the way you are in this moment. We cannot find ourselves if we are always searching for, or morphing into, someone else. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. Be your own kind of beautiful right now, in the way only you know how.

6. The picture in your head of how it’s supposed to be. – What often screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be. Although every good thing has an end, in life every ending is just a new beginning. Life goes on – not always the way we had envisioned it would be, but always the way it’s supposed to be. Remember, we usually can’t choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it. Read The Last Lecture.

7. Berating yourself for not being perfect. – Don’t be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Do your best and surrender the rest. Tell yourself, “I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment. And that is all I can expect of anyone, including me.” Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you’re trying.

8. Waiting, and then waiting some more. – Stop waiting for tomorrow; you will never get today back. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past. It doesn’t matter how low or unworthy you feel right now. The simple fact that you’re alive makes you worthy. Life is too short for excuses. Stop settling. Stop procrastinating. Start today by taking one courageous step forward. If you are not sure exactly which way to go, it is always wise to follow your heart.
 

人生面臨的最大挑戰(zhàn)之一就是能活得自在自得——不論身處何方，此時(shí)此地，我們都感到自如。但現(xiàn)實(shí)是，毫無(wú)必要地，我們過(guò)于頻繁地被外物分散了心思：食物、醇酒、購(gòu)物、電視、八卦新聞、社交網(wǎng)站、電玩、手機(jī)、iPod等——基本上，這些東西都會(huì)讓人分心，不能好好品味當(dāng)下的生活。

強(qiáng)迫自己去工作，強(qiáng)迫自己去鍛煉，強(qiáng)迫自己投入每段感情，以及采取類似的做法，人們逃避自我，以及逃避生活的真諦。實(shí)際上，很多人會(huì)竭力逃避不受干擾的環(huán)境，以免產(chǎn)生孤獨(dú)的感覺(jué)。所以，不加選擇地，我們無(wú)可奈何地和別人廝混，只為躲避寂寞的感覺(jué)。因?yàn)楣陋?dú)，就意味著要面對(duì)自己真實(shí)的感情：害怕、焦慮、幸福、憤怒、快樂(lè)、仇恨、失望、希望、哀傷、興奮、絕望，還有很多各種各樣的感覺(jué)。

還有，感覺(jué)積極或感覺(jué)消極真的無(wú)關(guān)緊要——只要這些感覺(jué)涌上心頭，就讓人無(wú)法呼吸，讓人筋疲力盡，所以我們更愿意讓自己麻木。說(shuō)到底，我們每個(gè)人都是癮君子——都是逃避自我的癮君子。承認(rèn)這個(gè)癖好，就是跨出了療愈的第一步。所以，從今天開(kāi)始，不評(píng)判是非，只是帶著好奇心注意到：就在我們稱之為生活的當(dāng)下，此時(shí)此地，人們所有躲避自我的方式。

下面的八種行為，會(huì)讓很多人忘記生活的真意。

1、患得患失。如果老擔(dān)心自己在某些地方錯(cuò)失了某些事情，你可不是孤例。我們都時(shí)不時(shí)地有這種感覺(jué)。但我向你保證：就算你馬不停蹄地四處奔波想去做每一件事，就算你想游遍全世界，就算大家隨時(shí)隨地都能聯(lián)系到你，就算夜晚不睡覺(jué)地工作、參加宴會(huì)，但實(shí)際上，還是無(wú)法做到不錯(cuò)過(guò)每一件事情。永遠(yuǎn)會(huì)有錯(cuò)過(guò)的事情。所以，順其自然吧，并且知曉你眼下已經(jīng)有了一切。最好的生活并不在別處；此時(shí)此地，就是最適意的生活。當(dāng)下，你活著，就是奇跡，就值得慶祝。此時(shí)的你，絕對(duì)完美。深呼吸，微笑，看看這有多美好。讀讀《此時(shí)的力量》這本書(shū)吧。

2、躲避痛苦和失敗。不是烏鴉嘴，說(shuō)你最終會(huì)失??；事情將來(lái)都會(huì)進(jìn)展順利的。只是一開(kāi)始，你得接受一兩次教訓(xùn)。不要逃避目前的真實(shí)狀況。其間包含的痛苦和挫折，對(duì)長(zhǎng)期的成長(zhǎng)，是必不可少的。記住，遭遇失敗和被打敗是有區(qū)別的。如果你不學(xué)會(huì)某堂課程，挫折就如影相隨，不會(huì)遠(yuǎn)離；至少你學(xué)到乖了，進(jìn)入下一個(gè)階段時(shí)，原先阻礙你的事情才會(huì)消失。

3、執(zhí)迷那些已經(jīng)不存在的事情。我們中的一些人花了很多時(shí)間細(xì)數(shù)往事，讓過(guò)去擺布現(xiàn)在的生活。想生活在另一個(gè)時(shí)空，這是浪費(fèi)時(shí)間，別這么做。讓往事，飄散吧。你必須接受一些事情的結(jié)果，這樣才能開(kāi)始經(jīng)營(yíng)某些新的事情。所以，今天，就關(guān)上一些回憶的陳舊大門吧。不是驕傲、不是無(wú)能，也不是自負(fù)，僅僅是因?yàn)檫^(guò)去你已經(jīng)嘗過(guò)個(gè)中滋味，心中明白那些事情是沒(méi)有出路的。

4、重復(fù)自我打壓的說(shuō)法。如果腦子里一直重復(fù)一個(gè)說(shuō)法，不管這個(gè)說(shuō)法是提供正能量還是負(fù)能量，我們最終會(huì)相信這個(gè)說(shuō)法，并且死命地抱住。所以，問(wèn)題就是：你的說(shuō)法提供正能量了嗎？腦子里不要老想著自己犯的錯(cuò)，這樣的負(fù)擔(dān)或許會(huì)壓垮你現(xiàn)在的潛能。反而，你要將錯(cuò)誤踩在腳下，把它們當(dāng)成眺望遠(yuǎn)方的高臺(tái)。記住：在變得容易前，所有的事情都是困難的。你現(xiàn)在開(kāi)始做的事情，才是最要緊的。讀讀《喚醒強(qiáng)大內(nèi)心》這本書(shū)吧。

5、削足適履，想成為別人。接下來(lái)，做你自己，做現(xiàn)在的你，這要數(shù)最艱難的戰(zhàn)斗了。如果我們一直追尋他人，或者沉迷別人的生活，那么就永遠(yuǎn)無(wú)法找到自我了。在這個(gè)瘋狂的世界里，經(jīng)常有人或事想讓你變得象另一個(gè)某某某，所以要鼓起勇氣，繼續(xù)做特立獨(dú)行的自己?，F(xiàn)在，用只有自己知道的方式，綻放出你獨(dú)特的美吧。

6、腦海中，描繪想當(dāng)然的畫(huà)面。生活中，腦海里盤(pán)桓著事情應(yīng)該如何的畫(huà)面，經(jīng)常把我們的生活攪成一團(tuán)亂麻。雖然所有的好事都將散場(chǎng)，但生活中，任何事情結(jié)束都只是一個(gè)新的開(kāi)始。生命不止；世事變遷，不會(huì)亙古不變，也不會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)合乎我們的想法。記?。和ǔ?，生活要演奏給我們聽(tīng)的音樂(lè)，讓人無(wú)法挑選；但我們可以選擇如何聞歌起舞。讀讀《最后一堂課》這本書(shū)吧。

7、因?yàn)椴煌昝?，就斥?zé)自己。別對(duì)自己太嚴(yán)苛。已經(jīng)有很多旁人樂(lè)意對(duì)你苛刻。盡人事，聽(tīng)天命。告訴自己：“眼下，我已經(jīng)傾盡所有做到最好了。對(duì)所有的人，我都只能指望他們盡力，包括我自己在內(nèi)。”愛(ài)自己，為自己做過(guò)的一切感到自豪，甚至包括犯過(guò)的錯(cuò)。因?yàn)椋词瑰e(cuò)誤也意味著努力。

8、等等，再等等。停止等待明天；以后，你無(wú)法讓今天回頭。過(guò)去做過(guò)什么，并不重要?，F(xiàn)在感覺(jué)多么消沉或不值，也不重要。你活著就有價(jià)值，這道理簡(jiǎn)單明了。生命太匆匆，不該到處找借口。停止消沉。停止拖延。從今天開(kāi)始，向著前方，跨出勇敢的一步。如果不是很肯定何去何從，那么跟隨內(nèi)心的呼喚，永遠(yuǎn)是明智的選擇。