Quora精選：那些來(lái)自父親讓我銘記終身的話(huà)

Q: What is the best advice your father ever gave you?
問(wèn)：父親給過(guò)你最好的建議是什么？

1.
Do not be afraid to take advice from those who has tried something and failed. Do not take it from those who have never tried anything.

不要怕向嘗試過(guò)卻失敗了的人請(qǐng)教，不要征求光說(shuō)不做的人的建議。

2.
Whenever you feel down, take a bath. Shave. Put on your best clothes. And just. Be. Happy. You're pretending, of course, but that's the point. Pretend that you feel good. Act like you're on top of the situation. And you know what? Eventually you will be. It's all in your head, son.

失落時(shí)，去泡個(gè)澡，刮下胡子，穿上你最好的衣服。然后，高興點(diǎn)！當(dāng)然，你是在裝高興，但這就是問(wèn)題的關(guān)鍵。假裝你感覺(jué)不錯(cuò)，很有把握，你知道會(huì)怎么樣嗎？這一切終將成真。兒子，心境決定一切。

3.
Make sure you marry somebody you want your kids to act like.

確保你的另一半是你孩子的好榜樣。

4.
Whatever you do in your life, just make sure you can face yourself in the mirror the next moment ... I will be proud of you if you always can.

無(wú)論你這輩子做了什么，只用確保下一刻你仍能面對(duì)鏡中的自己。如果你能一直問(wèn)心無(wú)愧，我會(huì)為你而自豪。

5.
"Your thoughts are limited by your vocabulary." My father told me when I was a teenager.

“你的思想受限于你的詞匯?！边@是我十幾歲的時(shí)候，我爸爸對(duì)我說(shuō)的。

That one line set me on the path to reading, building my vocabulary, falling in love with dictionaries, enjoying word-play, and attempting to write well and speak well. This expanded the horizons of my comprehension, and also gave me the ability to appreciate the refined, subtle thoughts written by others. There is a richness to the commentary of human experience that I would have missed out on had I not enjoyed reading and writing as much as I do.

這句話(huà)讓我走上了閱讀的道路，不斷擴(kuò)大我的詞匯量，愛(ài)上字典，享受文字游戲的樂(lè)趣，鍛煉自己的寫(xiě)作和演說(shuō)能力。多虧這些，我的悟性提高了，得以欣賞別人筆下精煉而微妙的思想。如果我不像現(xiàn)在這么喜歡寫(xiě)作和閱讀，可能會(huì)錯(cuò)過(guò)無(wú)數(shù)精彩獨(dú)到的人生見(jiàn)解。

This path has been central to how, for better or for worse, my personality evolved in the last 20 years since that afternoon.

那個(gè)午后以來(lái)的20年中，不論好壞，這條路對(duì)塑造我的人格都十分重要。

6.
On alcohol: Never drink alone and never drink to finish.
On money: It doesn't matter how much you have, it matters how you earn it and how you spend it.
On pretense: Pretending to be someone else has two negatives - you attract people you don't like and you cannot attract people you would rather be around.
On lying: The fundamental problem with lying is that you need to keep track of all the lies and that gets burdensome. It is far easier to tell the truth.

關(guān)于飲酒：不要獨(dú)飲，不要喝醉。
關(guān)于金錢(qián)：不在乎你有多少，關(guān)鍵是你怎么得來(lái)的，又是怎么花掉的。
關(guān)于偽裝：偽裝自己有兩個(gè)壞處——一是你會(huì)招來(lái)你不喜歡的人，二是你吸引不到你想結(jié)識(shí)的人。
關(guān)于謊言：撒謊最根本的問(wèn)題在于，你需要時(shí)刻記得自己撒了什么謊，這是種精神負(fù)擔(dān)。說(shuō)真話(huà)就要輕松多了。