他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡你 第53期:愛可以治愈承諾恐懼癥

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第七章

He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want toMarry You

如果他不想跟你結(jié)婚，那他其實(shí)沒有那么喜歡你

Love Cures Commitment-Phobia

愛可以治愈承諾恐懼癥

Just remember this. Every man you have ever datedwho has said he doesn't want to get married ordoesn't believe in marriage, or has "issues" with marriage, will, rest assured, someday bemarried.

記住。你約會過的任何說不想結(jié)婚、不相信婚姻或者是有婚姻問題的男人，總有一天一定會結(jié)婚。

It just will never be with you. Because he's not really saying he doesn't want to get married.He's saying he doesn't want to get married to you.

只不過永遠(yuǎn)不是跟你。因?yàn)樗⒎鞘钦f不想結(jié)婚，而是不想跟你結(jié)婚。

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married.

想結(jié)婚并沒有什么錯。

You shouldn't feel ashamed, needy, or "unliberated" for wanting that.

你不應(yīng)該為此而感到羞恥，急色或者約束。

So make sure from the start that you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and ifnot, move on as quickly as you can.

所以你開始就要確定選的是一個跟你未來打算一致的男人，否則就趕緊分手找過。

Big plans require big action.

大計(jì)劃需要大動作。

The "Things Are Really Tight Right Now" Excuse

“當(dāng)前形勢真的很緊張”的借口

Dear Greg, I have a boyfriend who I've been living with for three years.

親愛的格雷格，我有一個同居3年的男友。

I'm about to turn thirty-nine, and I have started bringing up the idea of long-term plans, like,say, marriage.

我快39歲了，我已經(jīng)開始提出長久的計(jì)劃，比如說結(jié)婚。

He always seems open to it, but then talks about how bad his finances are.

他總是看起來對此開誠布公，但是接著又開始說他的未婚妻有多糟糕。

He's an investment banker who works for himself, and he lost a lot of money in the past twoyears, a lot of clients, as well, and his business really has gone down the tubes.

他是一個自主投資銀行家，在過去的兩年里，他虧損了很多錢，流失了很多客戶，他的生意一落千丈。

He says he's under a lot of pressure.

他說他壓力很大。

Am I being unreasonable to want to know where this is all going? Please let me know.

我想知道事情會如何發(fā)展是不近人情么?請告訴我。

Signed Barbara

芭芭拉