他其實(shí)沒(méi)那么喜歡你 第56期:遇上不想結(jié)婚的男人

The "Is This Really an Excuse?" Dilemma

“這真是借口嗎”的窘境

Dear Greg, I'm thirty-three and have been livingwith a guy for two years.

親愛(ài)的格雷格，我33歲，和男友同居2年了。

We are in love, he's great to me, and we get alongperfectly.

我們很相愛(ài)，他對(duì)我很好，我們相處的很圓滿(mǎn)。

He has no problems committing to me—he justdoesn't want to get married.

他對(duì)我開(kāi)誠(chéng)布公——他只是不想結(jié)婚。

He married young and got divorced young.

他年輕時(shí)結(jié)過(guò)婚，然后沒(méi)多久離婚了。

He says he doesn't want to ruin a good thing.

他說(shuō)他不想毀掉一件美好的事。

It seems insane of me to break up with him because he doesn't want to get married.

如果我因?yàn)樗幌虢Y(jié)婚而跟他分手，那我一定是瘋了。

We are sharing a life together and are very happy.

我們共享生活，非常開(kāi)心。

He's even open to having kids. He just doesn't want to get married.

他甚至答應(yīng)要小孩，他只是不想結(jié)婚而已。

In this case, I don't think he's just not that into me. I think he's just not that into marriage.

此種情況，我不認(rèn)為他不是沒(méi)那么喜歡我，我覺(jué)得他只是不喜歡婚姻。

Signed Lindsey

琳賽

Dear Common Law Lady, Okay, this may be controversial, but I'm going to say it.

親愛(ài)的普通法女士，好吧，也許這有爭(zhēng)議，但是我還是要這么說(shuō)。

No matter how traumatic a divorce was (and I know they can be traumatic in epic proportions) ,the person you plan on spending your life and having children with should love you enough toget over it if getting married is important to you.

不管離婚的創(chuàng)傷有多大(我知道它可以是史上罕見(jiàn)的創(chuàng)傷)，如果結(jié)婚對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)很重要的話，這個(gè)你打算共度余生，撫育兒女的人應(yīng)該足夠愛(ài)你以克服它。

Only you can decide if marriage is a deal breaker for you.

只有你能決定婚姻是否會(huì)破壞關(guān)系。

I can't tell you if it's worth breaking up with him if you're happy and have a nice life together.That's for you to decide.

我無(wú)法告訴你如果現(xiàn)在你開(kāi)心而且共享愉快生活，和他分手是否值得。那得由你自己決定。

I have never been divorced, I'll give you that, but I'd marry my wife in every time zone if that'swhat she wanted.

我從未離婚過(guò)，但我可以告訴你，我妻子想在哪個(gè)時(shí)區(qū)結(jié)婚，我就去哪個(gè)時(shí)區(qū)。

In my very conventional opinion, I believe one foot in is the same as one foot out.

在我的傳統(tǒng)看法里，我相信一只腳進(jìn)就有一只腳出。

Greg

格雷格

Marriage is a tradition that has been somewhat imposed on us, and therefore has a lot of critics.

婚姻是頗為強(qiáng)加給我們的一種傳統(tǒng)，因此有很多批評(píng)家。

Be that as it may, if someone is as against marriage as you are for it, please make sure therearen't other things going on besides he's just not that into the institution.

盡管如此，如果有人跟你一樣反對(duì)婚姻，請(qǐng)確保他不喜歡婚姻除此之外還有什么其他的原因。