憤怒
Whether four or forty,we all get angry at times.
不管是4歲還是40歲,有時我們都會生氣。
But the person who doesn't learn to manage histemper
但是,一個不會控制自己脾氣的人,
marches through life shattering relationships,
一生都會損害與他人的關(guān)系,
hurting friends, losing promotions or worse.
傷害朋友的感情,失去晉升的機會甚至更糟。
Angry outbursts are a way of expressing feelings,
憤怒的爆發(fā)是表示情感的一種方式,
but they aren't very productive.
但這并不是一種有效的方式。
Even little children
甚至小孩
know they don't feel good about themselves when they lose control.
都知道,當(dāng)他們失去控制的時候,他們對自己的感覺也不好。
So we need to teach children that they can choose not to have a tantrum,
所以我們需要教導(dǎo)孩子們,他們可以選擇不發(fā)脾氣,
that they can talk about why they are mad.
他們可以把他們?yōu)槭裁纯衽脑蛘f出來。
Similarly,adults can calm themselves down
同樣,成年人也可以使自己冷靜下來,
and figure out what they are really upset about.
找出自己為什么煩躁。
Once you understand why you are angry,
一旦你了解了自己生氣的原因,
you can help yourself master your feelings.
你就可以幫助自己控制情緒。